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Friendly Warning - Most of Your Expectations Are False

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Friendly Warning - Most of Your Expectations Are False
By Zen Breaks • Issue #39 • View online
ZEN BREAKS 39 - Investigate: what is behind your expectations?

“Expectations were like fine pottery. The harder you held them, the more likely they were to crack.” - Brandon Sanderson, The Way of Kings
119. Expectations Limit or Expand Your Results
The Power of Expectations
The Power of Expectations
If you don’t believe the title, in 3 minutes you will. Just watch this simple experience made by the psychologist Bob Rosenthal.
Even more surprising than the experience itself, is the discovery of the way how the same people manage to obtain different results just because they have different expectations.
120. Expectations Can Make You Unhappy
Why we're unhappy -- the expectation gap
Why we're unhappy -- the expectation gap
We often say that we feel unhappy because things don’t go as we expect. However, what is at stake here is not so much the way things go, but the way we form our expectations.
We create our expectations based on factors such as:
  • our past experiences
  • the information available
  • our prediction/imagination of the results
However, this is neither an objective nor an effective process because, as Nat Ware explains, we are bad at making predictions - we are not good at building our expectations.
What can we do?
If we understand how we create our expectations, we can learn to see them for what they are - fragile and limited - and change our mindset to the possibility of different results.
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