We often say that we feel unhappy because things don’t go as we expect. However, what is at stake here is not so much the way things go, but the way we form our expectations.
We create our expectations based on factors such as:
- our past experiences
- the information available
- our prediction/imagination of the results
However, this is neither an objective nor an effective process because, as Nat Ware explains, we are bad at making predictions - we are not good at building our expectations.
What can we do?
If we understand how we create our expectations, we can learn to see them for what they are - fragile and limited - and change our mindset to the possibility of different results.