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Bad Temper | Negative Thinking | Name Emotions | Manage Emotions

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Bad Temper | Negative Thinking | Name Emotions | Manage Emotions
By Zen Breaks • Issue #6 • View online
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19. I Have a "Bad Temper". Really?
ZEN STORIES
ZEN STORIES
A Zen student came to Bankei and complained: “Master, I have an ungovernable temper. How can I cure it?”
“You have something very strange,” replied Bankei. “Let me see what you have.”
“Just now I cannot show it to you,” replied the other.
“When can you show it to me?” asked Bankei.
“It arises unexpectedly,” replied the student.
“Then,” concluded Bankei, “it must not be your own true nature. If it were, you could show it to me at any time. When you were born you did not have it, and your parents did not give it to you. Think that over.”
Source: Zen Flesh, Zen Bones
20. Ways to Deal With Negative Thinking
How to Defeat Negative Thinking: An Animation
How to Defeat Negative Thinking: An Animation
Two simple strategies we can use when negative thoughts try to take over:
  • Distract: we can adopt behaviors that generate positive emotions and ward off anxiety.
  • Combat - we can be our defense attorneys whenever negative thoughts throw accusations at us.
21. From "I Am" to "I Feel"
Name it to Tame it - How to Process Emotions
Name it to Tame it - How to Process Emotions
Learning to identify, to name the emotions we feel is the first step in starting to deal with them.
The more specific we can be in identifying them, the easier this task will be, as Emma McAdam explains to us in this excellent video.
This process is also the moment when we become aware that what we feel is not what we are. Our emotions are just a part of us, they are not our identity, they do not define us.
22. Learn to Manage Your Emotions - the first step is to accept what you feel
Reminder: a few Breaks everyday keeps the stress away. Practice it.
Reminder: a few Breaks everyday keeps the stress away. Practice it.
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