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One of the most profound moments I've witnessed + A renewed meditation practice

One of the most profound moments I've witnessed + A renewed meditation practice
By Zack Jones • Issue #61 • View online

Difficult Conversations Handled with Love
On Thursday I witnessed one of the most profound moments in my work with young people.
For context, Dual School is running an internship program for ten students between the age of 14 and 18 to learn to be effective mentors and leaders.
As you can imagine, some of the students are more engaged and participatory than others. Since much of their training has been about conflict resolution, team dynamics and empathy, the teens have recognized that two of their peers aren’t bringing their full selves to work. And because of their training, they know how to appropriately address the issue.
So on Thursday evening, everyone circled up to debrief on the week. After a few people spoke about good things that have happened, one person, from a place of love, called out the problem as he saw it.
A few other students spoke up, all from places of love, saying things like “We know how much you’re capable of, and we feel like you haven’t been putting in your best effort recently.”
The student in question took the feedback gracefully and responded that he has been dealing with some issues at home. Others responded empathetically saying that they know what that’s like and they appreciate that he said something.
The conversation flowed around the circle to the point where everyone contributed loving and kind words. The teens expressed their desire to do great work and for everyone to contribute to the team, while also maintaining an understanding for the difficult circumstances that come up at home. The conversation closed with a collective ask of what the group could do better to help each person achieve to their fullest potential.
As a part of the circle, I watched on the verge of tears for minutes. Fiercely optimistic for the future of the team, and imagining how beautiful the world could be if conversations like this were the norm.
What if classrooms regularly and intentionally had conversations where students expressed caring for each other and offered to help their peers thrive? What if school was viewed as a project where the students and educators were all working together to maximize the potential of each child? I think that was the intention when it started, but that mindset and culture has been lost in rankings and competitions.
Conversations like these are difficult and delicate for everyone involved, but as a result the team is stronger, more psychologically safe and higher functioning than before. Our team debrief will happen every Thursday to create space for more moments like this. Just imagine where we would be if all teenagers and people could have tough conversations from a place of love.
I bought a monthly subscription to a meditation app. It feels like a notable moment in my personal growth. I’m not sure why the barrier of $0 vs $8/month was so huge to get over, but it was. Currently on day 11 of meditating for 10 minutes/day.
Waking Up with Sam Harris - Discover your mind.
I like the way Sam Harris approaches the topic of meditation and its implications for the rest of your life. It’s not your typical “practice mindfulness so you will be more calm and productive” as is becoming trendy in the world today. It’s more about meditation as a fundamental habit to get the most out of life and to reduce suffering.
Along with a thoughtful sequence of meditations (of which there are 50 in the paid version of the app) there are numerous lessons that address topics like gratitude, free will, and the nature of existence. The combination of the two leads to a deeper purpose in the practice.
While it’s still early, I’ve had a great experience thus far and would recommend it to someone looking to get into a regular meditation practice.
The Dual School Exhibition is on Tuesday, December 11!
We have two more weeks of programming left before the Christmas break. On the 21st, Sophia and I are heading up to New England (with the dogs) for the holidays.
I joined an intramural volleyball league and the first game is tomorrow night. We’ll see how that goes.
That’s all for now,
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