I often used to wonder, if destiny is supposed to have the final say then what is my role in the whole scheme of things and what impact can I make in doing what I choose to do. Gradually I rationalized it by understanding that perhaps the ‘where’, ‘how’ and ‘when’ part of my situation is determined by the chain of events which are mostly not in my control, yet there is the ‘what I do’ part that is surely where I can make the difference. While a big portion of ‘what’ is being constituted by our external interface with the world, a bigger fraction of the same is what we are towards ourselves.
We often hear and talk about thinking positive thoughts as they form the very foundation of our disposition and action part. But what comes even before that is appreciating oneself. Just pause a little and think for a while, how many times we ponder over the thought - what he/she must be thinking about me, why did he/she say this to me, how can he/she do this to me and so on. All this means we tend to devote almost 80% (if not more) of our energy and time to working on our external interface while ignoring what is due towards the internal interface. If I believe that I am a tiny fragment of the one and the only divine being then it becomes my prime responsibility to take care of myself first. We are inhabiting a connected and aware world where we recognise the benefits of maintaining a healthy body so we are fitness aware and diet conscious. But are we doing enough to keep the mind equally healthy and happy? Love, care and appreciation are a few magic emotions which work wonders with whomsoever they are offered to. I think our mind deserves the same treatment from us. We need to learn to first love ourselves, take care of ourselves and appreciate whatever we do. While it is important to be critically honest for oneself, reprimanding oneself all the time is not healthy for the mind. Rather, let our mind get to hear more of ‘yes you are thinking good’ rather than ‘don’t think like this’. I guess we are again at the very basic which is applicable to everyone - what positive reinforcement can achieve, negative can never. So more often than not, give a pat on your back and feel good about what you do. Only a person who is happy from within can spread happiness in the world.