I saw this problem first hand as I was playing in a pick up game last week.
When I got to the gym, I didn’t know anybody. When I got picked up, it was by the loudest, most intense trash talker in the gym. He looked at me and said, “You look like a shooter, you’re on my team.”
Half way through the game my defender double-teamed my trash-talking teammate on the wing, leaving me wide open in the corner. He looked right at me and continued to dribble trying to beat two defenders. He must have meant that I looked like I could shoot, but not catch.
After 18 dribbles, head fakes, and gratuitous gyrations, he managed to get around the defenders and into the paint. Then, as he was falling out of bounds behind the backboard, he flung me the ball. Turns out not only could I catch, but I could shoot too.
As I ran back, I attempted to thank him for the pass. Unfortunately, I couldn’t get him to give me the time of day, let alone a high five. My teammate was too busy jumping up and down in the face of his defender, “YOU GOT CROSSED! All you *#$^@’s got crossed!”
He was more excited about “crossing” someone than the bucket.
I was incredulous.
To make things worse, the defenders didn’t even try to play offense…they bought into the debate. Play stopped so they could argue, but it wasn’t not about the score, a call, or whose ball it was.
“You didn’t cross me,” one claimed. “No one got crossed here. You’re crazy.” They continued to argue for five minutes on whether or not someone “got crossed.”
They cared more about the “embarrassment” of getting crossed than winning the game.
First I got angry, then I got sad, and eventually I left.
I’m guessing this behavior bothers you. I’m guessing you have seen this toxic, selfish trend as well. I’m guessing it pisses you off.