Over the past 15 years, I have worked with tens of thousands of athletes and coaches all around the world.
Most of them should have seriously considered quitting.
Some of them should have quit.
But instead, they continued without any real passion or commitment to improving their craft. Most continued to squander their time accusing others for their failure, blaming others for their poor experience or complaining about unfair circumstances.
Maybe, if they had truly considered quitting, they could have changed their perspective. Or maybe they would have quit in order to pursue the thing in which they could truly flourish.
Until you love something so much that you consider giving it up, you are unlikely to achieve anything special.
When you care deeply about something, you sacrifice for it. Sacrifice is excruciating. When you pay that price over and over again and don’t see the results the experience is excruciating and exhausting.
You ask yourself, “Why do I do this? Maybe I should quit.”
Those who don’t consider quitting probably don’t love it enough. They probably don’t obsess over their craft. They don’t maniacally work before others are up and long after others have left.
Again, if you haven’t considered quitting, maybe you should. The thing that can break your heart has your heart. Does this thing have your heart? Your full heart?
Go all in or move on. Excellence has no use for half measures.
If I’m not describing you, quit and go find something that will compel you to become your best.
When a season comes to an end and I debrief with athletes, coaches and parents, I get the same initial responses. They begin to complain and make excuses for why they or their team underachieved.
Ask yourself the same question I ask these people, “So why don’t you just quit?”
Just stop spending your time, resources and emotional energy on this thing that frustrates you so much.
Athletes, if your coach is that bad and your situation is so unfair, why not quit?
Coaches, if those parents are so difficult and frustrating, why don’t you quit coaching?
Parents, if constantly having to motivate your child is so exasperating and causes so much tension in your home, why not quit?
When slapped in the face with that question, most people begin to think of reasons they love the game and why, despite the disappointment, it’s all worth it.