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Maybe You Should Quit - SAVI Consulting - Issue #28

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Happy Friday to everyone who has ever loved something so much it hurt.
As high performers, you’ve probably been brought up on a steady diet of competitive culture. We’ve been told to push “through obstacles” and that “perseverance is the key to success.” We have t-shirts that say “winners never quit” and we should “finish what we start.”
But, is there a time to quit?

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Over the past 15 years, I have worked with tens of thousands of athletes and coaches all around the world.
Most of them should have seriously considered quitting.
Some of them should have quit.
But instead, they continued without any real passion or commitment to improving their craft. Most continued to squander their time accusing others for their failure, blaming others for their poor experience or complaining about unfair circumstances.
Maybe, if they had truly considered quitting, they could have changed their perspective. Or maybe they would have quit in order to pursue the thing in which they could truly flourish.
Until you love something so much that you consider giving it up, you are unlikely to achieve anything special.
Here’s why.
When you care deeply about something, you sacrifice for it. Sacrifice is excruciating. When you pay that price over and over again and don’t see the results the experience is excruciating and exhausting.
You ask yourself, “Why do I do this? Maybe I should quit.”
Those who don’t consider quitting probably don’t love it enough. They probably don’t obsess over their craft. They don’t maniacally work before others are up and long after others have left.
Again, if you haven’t considered quitting, maybe you should. The thing that can break your heart has your heart. Does this thing have your heart? Your full heart?
Go all in or move on. Excellence has no use for half measures.
If I’m not describing you, quit and go find something that will compel you to become your best.
When a season comes to an end and I debrief with athletes, coaches and parents, I get the same initial responses. They begin to complain and make excuses for why they or their team underachieved.
Ask yourself the same question I ask these people, “So why don’t you just quit?”
Just stop spending your time, resources and emotional energy on this thing that frustrates you so much.
Athletes, if your coach is that bad and your situation is so unfair, why not quit?
Coaches, if those parents are so difficult and frustrating, why don’t you quit coaching?
Parents, if constantly having to motivate your child is so exasperating and causes so much tension in your home, why not quit?
When slapped in the face with that question, most people begin to think of reasons they love the game and why, despite the disappointment, it’s all worth it.
Should you quit?
Well, if you don’t have some very compelling reasons to renew your commitment to your sport, you should quit. Quitting is a very reasonable response to a situation that is not fulfilling. And sometimes, it is a necessary step on the path to success.
Many of the greatest champions are quitters.
The ability to know when to quit has led to many of the greatest breakthroughs we have seen in history. Inventors quit on failed ideas, scientists quit on faulty theories, leaders quit on flawed strategies and athletes must quit on certain situations and pursuits in order to flourish in others.
Here are three things to consider when thinking about quitting:
1. Am I just giving into laziness?
Laziness is a terrible reason to quit. Eliminate this reason first.
Ask yourself, “Do I want to quit because it’s hard?” If you don’t like the adversity then quitting is not your best option. You just need to change your approach and grow your mental toughness. Choose to believe that adversity strengthens and see the challenge as an opportunity to grow.
Attack what is difficult until you conquer it and it becomes automatic. Don’t quit things just because they are hard. If you do, you will have a lifetime of insurmountable obstacles.
2. Is there a better use of my time?
There are many athletes with unrealistic goals for themselves. For those 5'9" players with little athleticism, you should probably quit on the goal of NBA stardom.
Reassess your assets and and maximize your potential by investing your time somewhere you can flourish. You can still play the game you love, but your fulfillment in the game (and in life) will be better served if you quit the things that are lowest leverage and invest in high leverage opportunities.
When you continue to pursue unrealistic goals it’s like continually banging your head against a wall and wondering why it hurts.
3. Compared to quitting, how bad is it really?
This is a key inflection point in your journey.
You must get here to have a chance to change your situation.
When you feel so much pain that you consider quitting — it will put the situation in a new perspective. When you compare your bad situation to the alternative of not being a part of the game, the team, the journey - then your situation won’t look nearly as bad.
Our problem is constantly comparing our situation to others.
Comparison is the thief of all joy.
Once you consider your worst case scenario of quitting and giving up on your dream, you can operate instead from a place of gratitude.
Gratitude for the opportunity you do have. Gratitude for the gifts you have been given. Gratitude for the people in your life that have helped you. Gratitude for the lessons you’ve learned. Gratitude for the journey you are on.
There are many times quitting is the best option.
No one ever told me that, and I wish they had.
SO, if you are considering quitting - good! That means you may be in exactly the right place. You care deeply about what you are doing. You have a chance to do something special.
So take some time to yourself and review your dreams and how important they are.
Ask yourself if you are just giving in to laziness and if this is a decision you will be proud of later.
Evaluate if there is a better use of your time, talents and resources.
Consider, how bad it really is compared to giving up on your dream.
After pondering these questions, you should have much greater clarity on whether or not you should quit.
If you DON’T quit, go dominate with single minded determination.
If you DO quit, go dominate with single minded determination.
I’m Tyler and I’m here to help.
PS- I quit recently, and I’ll tell that story to you soon.
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Tyler Coston
Tyler Coston @tylercoston

I coach coaches.

Christ Follower. Keynote Speaker. Program Clinician. Creator of the LockLeft Defense, Race&Space Offense & SAVI Shooting System.

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