Do you coach or do you teach?
I was in the gym and saw a team start to practice. Curious, I sat down to watch. I found myself on the sidelines wanting to help badly. And although this coach knows more about his team than I do, I know more about teaching than he does.
Within 15 minutes of watching, I found three ways to help.
This coach was stuck on the first level of coaching. They identified a problem (many of them) and shared their frustration (lots of it). The result was everyone feeling crappy.
It’s countercultural (and rare) for coaches to ask other coaches for feedback. What’s even rarer is accepting feedback you didn’t ask for. It’s unheard of. It often just triggers a defense mechanism.
If feedback is offered, most coaches simply say thanks and move on. Then, they’ll do the same things, the same way (for years) and wonder why things haven’t improved.
What type of coach are you? Are you a coach who takes valuable feedback, no matter who it came from?
Socrates said the knowledge of self is the beginning of all wisdom. Once we begin to really know ourselves, we start to see how little we actually know. We see how much growth still remains. That wisdom leads to humility. True humility isn’t thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking about yourself less. True humility is taking valuable feedback rather than assuming you know everything (as so many people do).
When you realize it’s not about you, you’re ready.
When the student’s ready, the teacher will appear.
What type of coach are you? Are you ready to seek out feedback and act on it?
Here’s three pieces of feedback for you to act on immediately.