“Whatever else each of us derives from our work, there may be nothing more precious than the feeling that we truly matter — that we contribute unique value to the whole, and that we’re recognized for it. … Feeling genuinely appreciated lifts people up.” – Tony Schwartz
’Why Appreciation Matters So Much’
I agree with what Mr. Schwartz wrote about appreciation back in 2012 and have recap’d his points below:
Do No Harm – ok, eventually you’ll screw up & harm something or someone. But even in situations in which someone has fallen short of a goal, appreciate the effort & help them change their behavior for the better vs. devaluing them.
Start With Yourself – do you find it tough to publicly appreciate others? Red flag: is it also hard to appreciate yourself? Each day to ask yourself: “What can I rightly feel proud of today?” & then up your game: “What could I do better tomorrow?”
Notice What Others Do Right – Practice makes perfect. What things do you currently take for granted about the efforts of those around you? Ask yourself: “what is it that each of them uniquely brings to the table?” Let them know you notice!
Don’t Hate, Appreciate – Nowadays its cool to troll & player hate. That’s easy & destructive. Go the extra mile: a handwritten is magic and even an email or a passing comment can mean so much.
Schwarz closes with the somber reality that we’re all more vulnerable and needy than we like to imagine. It is also my experience that taking the time to appreciate others even makes you feel better about yourself and the work you do.
As always, thank you for reading!