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Issue #39 - No Power to the Dream Thieves - Especially Our Own

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Are our biggest "dream thieves and life vampires" the ones of our own making? If so, what can we do t
 

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October 30 · Issue #39 · View online
Feeding the Passion for Transformation: Be it Talent, Culture, Work or HR

Are our biggest “dream thieves and life vampires” the ones of our own making? If so, what can we do to hold them at bay?
John Cena, of WWE and “Are you smarter than a 5th grader” fame, was reflecting on the advice he got from a different former wrestler turned mega-actor, Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson as he was freaking out about preparing for an audition: “He gave me a piece of advice that still rings in my ears like he said it yesterday. I don’t even know if he knows this was such sage advice, he just turned to me as smooth and casual as he does with everything he says, and in such an inspirational tone, as with everything he does, he was like, ‘Just be yourself, man. That’s why they asked you there in the first place.’ And that message of ‘always be authentically yourself’ has stuck with me, and created the opportunity I have. Thank you, The Rock.”
The surfing legend, Layne Beachley, talks about how despite being barraged by “dream thieves and life vampires” - who attempted to reinforce negative self-doubts around why she would not be able to achieve her dreams of being a world-class surfer - her own personal vision and the fact that she chose to surround herself with people who constructively encouraged her to be better, allowed her to ignore the thieves and vampires.
The writer Kahlil Gibran, is often known together with the quote: “And God said “Love Your Enemy,” and I obeyed him and loved myself”.
Why is it that we can be our own worst enemy - and conversely, our own best coach?
Whether you are in academia, in competitive sports, leading a company as a CEO, a practicing psychologist, or entering into your 3rd internship, the oscillation between feeling like the Little Engine that Could and staring in Jim Carry Imposter rap is very real hurdle to a high proportion of the population.
The hurdle is called Imposter Syndrome - which, simply put, is the feeling like you haven’t really earned your achievements and what is coming next might go completely haywire because you are not ready or have the necessary expertise to master the challenges at your doorstep. It is a hurdle that many of the most amazing people that I know struggle with. Heck, I myself am a card-carrying member of this crowd.
Therefore, befitting to Halloween to unsheathe the “dream thieves and life vampires”, some thoughts and advice from others on how one can to tackle the very real self-driven challenge to personal growth and professional development. Where the actualization to ‘always be authentically yourself’ turns out to be a very good thing - and not a scary costume.

Me, myself and I: often our own worst enemy - and our best coaching partner.
Masquerading as: What is Imposter Syndrome?
5 Different Types of Imposter Syndrome (and 5 Ways to Battle Each One) Melody Wilding
The Mental Book of Racing - Dr. Kristin Keim - Medium
Imposter Syndrome: What Every Intern Must Know Before Disaster Strikes
Why does a successful person feel like a fraud? | Portia Mount | TEDxGreensboro
Newsflash: Learning is Part of the Journey
Billionaire CEO Sara Blakely Says These 7 Words Are the Best Career Advice She Ever Got | Inc.com
How Early-Career Setbacks Can Set You Up for Success - The New York Times
Inspire Confidence in Others - Starting With Yourself
The Power of Self-Belief | Layne Beachley | TEDxStHildasSchool
If You Struggle With Imposter Syndrome, Scientists Might Have an Odd Solution
Brittany Packnett: How to build your confidence -- and spark it in others | TED Talk
How to Keep Criticism from Undermining Your Confidence
Question: What has helped you shed your imposter costume?
This past week, I had the honor of being the Chairwoman for a Global Learning and Development summit in beautiful Barcelona (#cpgld). The topic of Imposter Syndrome came up whilst discussing the incredible experiments in learning folks were conducting for their organizations. A common thread of advice came out - which was “just try it” and if you need help, actually ask for it. Simple and effective - and with powerful learning opportunities behind it.
So, all of the “dream thieves and life vampires” we bid you adieu - and we say hello to all of the risk-takers, game-changers, and learners out there. It may be scary - but it is a very welcoming space!
Wishing you all a very Happy Halloween with only the best candy in your bags!
All my best regards,
Liz
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Elizabeth Lembke, Transforming Talent Consulting: www.transformingtalent.co and www.transformingtalent.de