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Issue #37: Kaa on Trust: Lessons Learned

Elizabeth M. Lembke - Chief Talent Navigator (HR Consultant)
Elizabeth M. Lembke - Chief Talent Navigator (HR Consultant)
Back in the days when we were kids, we watched (or read) the Jungle Book and saw Kaa, the sneaky snake, serenade the little man-cub Mowgli on trust and draw him into his snare. But how did we know that Kaa was untrustworthy*?
His statements were good but we didn’t believe that he meant them in a trust-worthy manner (*TBH the googly eyes were a good tip-off).
Trust is at the center and core of strong relationships. Often times trust seems like something we sense rather than can explicitly describe. Which is why I would like to do a little analogy for trust exercise with you.
  • Take a new sheet of paper. This paper represents the basis for a new relationship / friendship or negotiations. What does it look like? It is blank.
  • Until we write on it those little moments that build-up our trust and confidence in one another. So do that now: write a few of the things that are the key essentials for you in building up trust in someone else - and the things you do that build trust for others.
  • Ok now answer: what would be a major trust-breaking infraction in a relationship for you? It could be a slip of the tongue, going behind the back to negotiate a different deal, taking credit for shared work, not answering a DM, postponing a career discussion: whatever it is for you.
  • Now depending on the severity, crumple the paper up according to how bad you think the damage to your relationship would be.
  • What does the paper look like now?
  • What would it take to flatten that sheet of paper back out?
  • What tell-tale signs would be left behind?
I was teaching a facilitator training and one of the participants used that exercise - and moved the whole room. To date, I think it is the best representation of the implicit and personal nature that building-up a trust relationship is, how precarious a slight can be and how conscious the process of building trust back up truly is.
To quote Zig Ziglar “If people like you, they’ll listen to you, but if they trust you, they’ll do business with you.”
Trust is paramount to teams doing deep work and collaborating, for creating social change, to employee engagement, to respecting (and buying into) companies brands, and for successful relationships.
So what is trust?
Trust is braving - to lean on research professor Bréne Brown and her definition:
Boundaries | You respect my boundaries, and when you’re not clear about what’s okay and not okay, you ask. You’re willing to say no.
Reliability | You do what you say you’ll do. At work, this means staying aware of your competencies and limitations so you don’t over promise and are able to deliver on commitments and balance competing priorities.
Accountability | You own your mistakes, apologize, and make amends.
Vault | You don’t share information or experiences that are not yours to share. Ineed to know that my confidences are kept, and that you’re not sharing with me any information about other people that should be confidential.
Integrity | You choose courage over comfort. You choose what is right over what is fun, fast, or easy. And you choose to practice your values rather than simply professing them.
Nonjudgment | I can ask for what I need, and you can ask for what you need. We can talk about how we feel without judgment.
Generosity | You extend the most generous interpretation possible to the intentions, words, and actions of others.
What impact does trust braving have?
Quite a considerable one as I am sure that Mowgli, Kaa and a few researchers can tell you.

Feel the need for speed? Put trust and teaming at the forefront.
Feel the need for speed? Put trust and teaming at the forefront.
What is TRUST?
Trust - Our World in Data
‎Oprah’s SuperSoul Conversations: Dr. Brené Brown: The Anatomy of Trust
‎TED Radio Hour: Trust And Consequences
TRUST & Team
‎WorkLife with Adam Grant: How to Trust People You Don’t Like
Trust: does it impact team performance... or not? • ScienceForWork Wendy Hirsch
TRUST & Leadership
Trust in Leadership - One Key Factor During Organizational Change • ScienceForWork
Four Perspectives on Re-establishing Trust | Reputation Rules
5 practical ways leaders can build a high-trust culture in the cyber-physical age
Question: What do you do to build up deep trust between colleagues?
Trust and its effects on the future of work, society, technology, capitalism and relationships was part of a wine-fuelled discussion I had this past week with my AirBnB housemates. Based on our various upbringings - Slovakia, Turkey, USA, and Germany - and personal outlooks, different elements that came to the table which, at their core, really encompassed the integrity, generosity and walk-the-talk elements from Brené Brown.
Trust in thinking beyond profit margins is becoming the new way to do business. As we can see by last week’s Business Roundtable announcement around the redefined purpose of an organization and its 181 CEO signees the expectations of consumers, employees, stakeholders goes beyond the profit expectations of shareholders. It is a significant move in itself as it signifies that Kaa’s of the world are having a difficult time if they only look to serve quarter-end profit. People are demanding more from their brands, organizations, and leaders. Which is great IMHO.
On that note, fostering a culture of trust in teams and organizations is one of my favorite things to do. If this is something that you would like support with, please let me know.
Wishing you all a wonderful final kick to your summer and talk soon!
All of my very best regards,
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Elizabeth M. Lembke - Chief Talent Navigator (HR Consultant)
Elizabeth M. Lembke - Chief Talent Navigator (HR Consultant) @elizabethlembke

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