If you don’t really want to - you are not going to.
That’s it - that is the summary on changing behaviors and habits after 15+ years as a learning and development leader.
One can be taught all sorts of cool tools, tricks, hacks via role-play, inspired speeches, walk throughs on best practices, great IDP (individual development plan) and yes, there may be slight movement forward - but real change? Unless there is truly a desire coupled with insight (and/or desperate need,) the cycle of “want-to’s” is stuck on repeat.
All real change has to start with desire. And, in my opinion, desire can only happen after an a-ha moment or personal insight/self-awareness as to why one would want to.
What is desire? Not withstanding philosophy (reference support here)
or a Kevin Costner movie
, desire is an underlying belief that something can be made to be and is possible. Only if this insight is strong and motivates action, will the attention/work start to help move things in the direction the belief is pointing towards.
It has been my experience in trainings, apps, blogposts, global meetings, there is a very strong focus on the skills - the how-to’s - and the knowledge - the what-to’s - but unless the “want-to’s” are coupled with a real desire or belief that things can be different and a reason one personally cares, those pieces of knowledge and the skills stay latent.
To kick-off 2019, I encourage you to step away from your own personal should-do’s, could-do’s, supposed-to’s and the theoretical want-to’s and ask: what do you truly desire to… (pick your verb: change, learn, try-out, stop, start). Only then can you describe what it will really look like or how you will know if you have been successful.
Desire supports one’s ability and drive to make a change into a new reality. It is the “starting point of all achievement” according to Napoleon - and he wasn’t wrong.
So, to help us all in making our desires (changes, resolutions, goals) a new reality, in this edition we focus in on some good support resources.
Let’s do this 2019!