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Life Designed: Tiny Living, Russian Roulette & Mentors

What if you're wrong? It's easy to think that you understand the world but what if everything you kno
Life Designed: Tiny Living, Russian Roulette & Mentors
By Tomas Laurinavicius • Issue #46 • View online
What if you’re wrong?
It’s easy to think that you understand the world but what if everything you know is false?
Time and time again, I’ve been proven that I’m wrong. Albeit business, relationships, spirituality, I’ve said and done wrong things.
In the beginning, it hurts to admit the wrong thinking but it’s an essential step to understanding yourself and the world better.
To prove yourself right is a waste of time. Everything is relative anyway and there are many better things you could be doing.
To understand should be the goal.
In the words of Dale Carnegie, “Any fool can criticize, complain, and condemn—and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.”
When you let go of the need to be right, you open up all the alternative realities (different perspectives from different people) and allow yourself to explore the infinite pool of ideas.
Being wrong is a way to learn and understand things.
As Sir Ken Robinson writes, “If you’re not prepared to be wrong, you’ll never come up with anything original.” 
You don’t need to seek to be wrong, you’ll be, inevitably.
To begin understanding yourself better, admit your wrongdoings and thinking only to yourself and slowly go from there.
This simple question can help.
What if you’re wrong?
Welcome to another edition of Life Designed where I share the insights and resources to help you live better.

Meet Sean Tierney, an experienced salesman, podcaster, global citizen and founder of multiple initiatives. Here’s my interview with him sharing his habits, routines and life philosophy.
Staying in control of your morning is the most high-leverage habit you can implement. I put my phone in airplane mode when I go to sleep then have a morning routine.
One of the many reasons I quit most of social media last year is this over-positive trend to promote a one-fits-all perfect lifestyle, which I’m 100% guilty of. Even this newsletter is called Life Designed and the goal is to promote ideas and tools to live better while carefully filtering what I share. I think you’ll like this piece.
You’ve seen them before, because they are all over Instagram: the captions urging you to embrace your expansion, whatever that means, slow down to savor the moment, and hustle like you’re Beyoncé – all at once.
But, Kuburic argues, a full life – which she defines as one full of meaning, freedom, responsibility, and grounded in an authentic relationship with yourself – is the same as it was pre-Instagram.
“We are eager to live our lives fully,” she says. “Yet the pressure to prove this to our ‘friends’ is a major reason why we are not.”
Is social media coming to an end? Csaba Vadadi-Fulop argues that the fall of the social media era is approaching. While I don’t think people will suddenly stop using social platforms, we’ll see a lot of people combating the addiction more seriously.
Reading a book, spending quality time with your family, or planning the next day are more valuable evening activities than checking the latest Twitter threads.
Another great piece by Taylor Pearson that will make you think. Through thought experiments and practical examples, he explains what ergodicity is how you can use it to make better decisions.
Though you will (hopefully) never play Russian roulette, there are a surprising number of scenarios in life that have rules very similar to Russian Roulette but which otherwise sane and rational-seeming people (including Nobel prize winners) choose to play. In fact, you may be playing one of those games right now and don’t realize it.
Cedric Chin has an interesting and practical way to organize non-fiction books (that tend to be full of fluff). I find it quite practical and will use it to determine what to read or skim through next.
Tree books are books that lay out a framework of ideas. A good example is Daniel Kahneman’s Thinking: Fast and Slow, which lays out his life’s work — the entirety of behavioural economics — in a single book. (So an entire field, like a tree of knowledge, in one book. Geddit, geddit?)
I wrote about learning from the best mentors that ever lived and this short piece by Derek Sivers explains how you can do it as well, every time you need advice.
Truth is, I’ve hardly talked with my mentors in years. None of them know they are my mentors. And one doesn’t know I exist.
Last week I shared Dwellito, a company selling modular homes. Life Designed reader Petras shared this entertaining YouTube channel documenting sustainable living, tiny homes and downsized designs.
An easy to use drag and drop tool you can use to create engaging custom illustrations.
All your business documents, in one click. Automatically generate personalized proposals, case studies, invoices, and brochures for your growing business in minutes. Free to send and download.
The City Turns Into a Movie When It Rains
Photo by Mike Szpot.
Photo by Mike Szpot.
Food for Thought
“I was slowly learning that love did not mean holding on, which I had always thought, but rather letting go.” – Ken Wilber
“How do you curb envy? First, stop comparing yourself to others. Second, find your “circle of competence” and fill it on your own. Create a niche where you are the best. It doesn’t matter how small your area of mastery is. The main thing is that you are king of the castle.” – Rolf Dobelli
“From an evolutionary point of view it is explainable why we wanted to gather more and more: with more food, more water, more protection against predators, we may be less likely to die. But today, growth feeds our ego and social standing.” – Paul Jarvis
“I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you.” – Friedrich Nietzsche
⏰ Time: 12:01
🎧 Listening: The World of Hans Zimmer
📖 Reading: Shantaram by Gregory David Roberts
🇪🇸 Location: Valencia, Spain
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