At the time of writing, I was trying my very best to cope with a big new job (title of Vice President) that had turned out to be a big disappointment. I’ve always found it admirable when people take responsibility for themselves and their own situation, and I’ve certainly tried to do that too. Always striving to avoid being the victim. But looking back on this situation, I now see it differently. There comes a point where the amount of coping strategies you develop in order to just get through the day-to-day reaches an unhealthy level. I’m learning that there are times in life where I can better take responsibility for the situation by first admitting that I’m in fact a victim of something outside that was of my control. Only then does it become clear that the right path forward is not to stay and fight and develop even more advanced coping mechanisms. The right path forward is to get the hell out.
With much love
p.s. if you find yourself in a situation where you are unsure, you are always welcome to ask. The worst situations I’ve gotten out of, were only possible because trusted friends helped me see that it has become toxic. It can be really hard to see for ourselves, and we can easily perpetuate and defend the situation.