Just to be clear we are not being sponsored to promote this book by Dan Sullivan and Dr. Benjamin Hardy (Wish we were though😅).
I found the general concept of this book helpful when I was dealing with feelings of inadequacy regarding my work, relationships, and results in general.
As a PhD student, I was continuously feeling like I wasn’t good enough, I wasn’t doing enough, and discounted all my past achievements while focussing on the things that had yet to be achieved or that were taking longer than I thought they should.
This got so bad that I felt that I was incapable of doing anything right and was the deepest point in my mental health last year. That’s when along with getting therapy, I encountered The Gap and the Gain.
The idea of the gap and the gain helped me actively rephrase my progress as actual progress/ wins (gains) instead of failures to meet a deadline or hit a specific target (the gap).
When we measure our results or achievements there are generally two ways to evaluate them.
One is common for many people and that is to determine ahead of time what we expect and measure our results against our goals or ideals.
The other way to measure is backward.
Example: you have a deadline in 1 month. Every day you work a bit on the project, but despite not finishing it within the deadline you do manage to finish it with a few days delay and didn’t beat yourself up about it along the way.
The benefit of this way is that you get to enjoy the days that you make progress vs lamenting the days where little to no progress was made.
While neither way will change the task, they will change how you perceive the task and affect your mental health in the long run.
So, ask yourself. Would I rather measure my progress against a goal/ ideal and delay my gratification until actually achieving the thing (the gap), or would I rather be happy every day that I make progress towards that goal (the gain)?
If you’re interested in learning more about the gap and the gain then consider buying the book on amazon
. I have the audiobook myself which comes with in-between chapters where the 2 authors discuss each chapter which is definitely an added value.
If you are like me and quite stingy with your money and would rather get more of a taste for it then consider checking out The Modern Wisdom podcast where the host Chris Williamson interviews Dr. Ben Hardy about the book and the concepts in it ( link below).