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The Long Game - Issue #207

Taylor Somerville
The Long Game - Issue #207
By Taylor Somerville • Issue #207 • View online
The stories we tell ourselves…
The stories in our heads can bring us joy, sadness, happiness or anger. They can determine whether we get in a fight with our partner or leave a job. We all have stories in our heads. For example, when someone cuts you off in traffic, you may tell yourself they’re an asshole. However, what if they were rushing to the hospital because their kid was in an accident? When you get upset with your partner, they didn’t put away the dishes or do the laundry. You could tell yourself they are inconsiderate and you do all of the work around the house. However, maybe they had a hectic day and are upset with themselves because they can’t help as much at home.
These are just two examples of the many stories we create in our minds about others and ourselves. When working with clients, I tend to hear, “I can’t do _________”. The blank may pertain to starting a new habit, taking a cold shower, running a race, or any personal goal I am helping them accomplish.
A negative mindset does not get us anywhere and is another story you are telling yourself. The key is to notice when you are creating these stories, limiting yourself, or creating friction with others. Once you are aware of these stories, you can choose to listen and act on them if it truly serves you or push past it and make changes. This is easier said than done, but once you become the observer of these stories, you can learn to let them go. One technique I use with my clients is to teach them to listen to their bodies when they feel these stories. You usually start to feel these in the gut, chest, heart rate, or other bodily sensations. Once the sensations appear in our bodies, these stories creep into our heads and snowball. You can’t stop the mind with the mind. You must use the body. If you’re willing to do the work, you can learn to reframe these stories and not allow them to control your life.
I challenge you to listen to the stories creeping up: the good stories and the bad. We are story-telling creatures and we can allow them to serve us or hold us back, but the first step to changing the stories you don’t want is awareness.

This is a fascinating piece about how we process pain. Sometimes pain can be just another story in our heads. We can create the story that we can’t move, something is wrong with us, etc. but in reality, is it really the case? While there are certainly times when there is a serious condition, you are not your MRI or the condition you were told you have. If you are struggling with some type of ailment and not getting anywhere, seek out another opinion. They might just give you a different story, one of hope.
It starts with realizing unexpected things happen and we must be ready to act and move when they do. We can do this by challenging our biases but also giving us space to create new ideas. The author proposes getting rid of unnecessary meetings and distractions during the day. Creating time for stillness gives our minds a chance to be curious and prepare for the unforeseen.
Hardiness gets us through the difficult times in life we all must face. One of the key traits of hardiness is looking at life as a series of challenges with no fixed outcomes. We fail, we learn, we get knocked down, and we keep moving forward. We don’t let those stories society tells us how our life turns out. We keep moving forward no matter what. It’s not easy but when was the last time something was easy and fulfilling?
Before I go, check out a few more links I found this week.
If you are ready to take back control of your lie so you have more time, more energy, and less stress, set up a call today and begin changing the stories in your life.
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In Health,
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Taylor Somerville

The Long Game is a newsletter for people that want to grow and challenge themselves. It is about the drive to better ourselves mentally, physically, and spiritually while having the curiosity to enjoy the journey. I will include articles, podcast, videos, and blogs on a variety of topics ranging from psychology, fitness, meditation, and nutrition. I am a certified XPT Coach, I hold the Art of Breath certification, I am a CrossFit Level 1 trainer and hold the Aerobic Capacity certficate. Checkout my website to learn more about the services I offer.

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