“You can not see your reflection in running water, only in still water.” Zen Master
We have large amounts of information coming at us all the time and we never sit back to listen to what is inside of us. We are always seeking more and more. More books, more podcasts, more information, more news, etc. I am just as guilty as the next person of this, but we need to find time to see our reflection. We need to cultivate stillness in our lives.
How often do you give yourself space to observe what you are feeling, the thoughts that come and go? Do you know what triggers you and cause you to lash out? Do you know why you believe the things you do? What do you truly value?
Answering these questions is not easy and takes practice. But, it starts with awareness. Instead of blindly going through the day rushing from task to task and checking off our to-do list, we must learn to become aware of our thoughts and our reactions. This is incredibly difficult as we age and juggle careers, kids, and family, but cultivating your intuition and awareness will have long-term benefits. Are you able to do some work in the short-term to benefit in the long run?
When we are just checking off the to-do list, we become short-term focused and lose our sense of purpose. We can allow our relationships to lapse because we aren’t having real conversations. We aren’t communicating with our partner about our needs and wants. Hell, most of us have no idea what those are anymore. We are pulled along by whatever the buzz is on the internet. If you’re feeling rushed through life and ready to make a change, you can.
Start by setting aside five minutes for yourself daily. Spend time focusing on your breath
. When you create awareness around your breath, you will create awareness around your thoughts, your emotions, and your actions. Check-in with your body. Where are you holding tension? Do you tense up in that spot when you get stressed? What thought keeps coming back over and over again? Make note of those. Write it down and come back to it at the end of the day and reflect. Spend one month doing this practice. At the end of the month, see what the repetitive patterns are that keep popping up. From here, you can begin to look into those a little more deeply. You can create a plan for change to live life to the fullest.