I hope everyone is having a Happy Holiday season and enjoying the time with friends and family. Over the last several weeks, I’ve discussed the foundations of health, performance, breath, mindset, nutrition/hydration, movement, and rest/recovery. This week, I will discuss the final piece - connection/relationships. This time of year is perfect to be with those close to us, even if it is virtual.
As humans, we are tribal people and need the connection of others to thrive. During the winter months, we hunker down and spend time with those closest to us. Our relationship with others, ourselves, and God/spirit (or whatever your personal religious beliefs are) are essential. How connected are you right now?
Your relationship with yourself determines how you show up in the world. Do you take the time to define your core values? Have you explored what you really want out of life? If you don’t spend time doing this inner work, you might wake up one day and wonder how you got where you are. You may find yourself unsatisfied and potentially resenting those around you.
If you haven’t done the inner work, I encourage you to adopt a journaling practice. It will help you dive into your mind and inner workings. In addition to journaling, I encourage you to spend time alone and listen to your heart. During this time of year, try to find some time to connect with yourself and feel your emotions and desires.
What is your relationship like with others? Do the people in your life lift you up or pull you down? If you want to improve yourself, having a community of like-minded individuals is incredibly important. While it is natural to want to complete tasks on your own, we need others’ support. Not only can support help us reach our goals, but it also brings more pleasure to the journey. As you find people you truly care about, stay present with them and try not to distract yourself. One of the methods we adopted in our household is no phones at dinner. This is a time to connect and engage. When you are engaged with loved ones, try to have deep and meaningful conversations. Gossip, small talk, and idle chit chat serve no purpose. Learn what drives those close to you and listen, not to respond, but to hear what they say.
Last but not least, what is your relationship with a higher power? I’m not saying you must believe in God, but as you get out in the world, it is clear there is something much bigger than us. The vast expanse of nature and the deep connection you can feel with the earth by going on a hike makes this clear. If you are struggling with your relationship with your higher power, I encourage you to get out in nature and explore and reconnect to whatever that higher power may be for you.
In the final week of the year, I challenge you to look into each of these aspects of connection. Spend time connecting with yourself, with others, and with a higher power. I’d love to hear about your experience, so please send me an email and let me know how it goes.