“Anxiety lives in the future.” taken from Lao Tzu
Do you find yourself to be an anxious person? I’ve dealt with anxiety a lot in my life. While it still creeps up, I have been able to minimize these feelings as I’ve aged. I picked up this trait from my father and his mother. They were both worriers and were always prepping for what might come. While anxiety can be a good thing at times and I am extremely grateful that my father was prepared when his time came, problems arises when anxiety becomes chronic. Anxiety keeps us out of the present moment and forces us to constantly worry about the bad things that might happen in the future instead of enjoying the good right in front of us.
Worry and anxiety come from a place of wanting to control. We are trying to weigh every variable to make sure nothing goes wrong. However, God has different plans as they say. A lot of what goes wrong will be things we never even thought about and most of the time, it all turns out okay. There are very few events in life that we can’t use to come back stronger if we put our minds to it.
To help with anxiety, Breathwork and meditation play an important role. With practice, these give you the space to recognize, name the anxious thoughts popping into your head and then evaluate how probable they might be. Once you name and evaluate these thoughts, you will realize that a lot of them are out of your control and you can’t worry about it. The ones where you do have control, you create a plan and take action.
If you can’t seem to tamp down the anxiety, I recommend talking to someone. Find a therapist or a coach and begin working with a professional. They are an unbiased observer that can help you process what is going on.
Don’t let anxiety and worry destroy the joy of the present moment.