Last week, I discussed “Amor Fati”, which means, accept everything that happens in life - the good, the bad, and the ugly. Our life experiences craft the person we become, but learning to accept all of the things that happen to us in our lives takes preparation. How do we prepare ourselves to tackle what life throws at us? We must work to “callous the mind” as David Goggins would say. We have the power to take control of our self-talk and the self-doubt that creeps in when bad things happen. We all deal with fear and self-doubt but learning how to handle it separates the successful from the unsuccessful.
A lot of the practices I incorporate into my clients and my life are to make us not only more resilient but anti-fragile. The resilient resists shocks and stays the same; the anti-fragile gets better. We want to grow through stress and advance with each shock to the system. Intense workouts, ice baths, breathwork, and journaling all help to make you more adaptable and better in handling difficult situations in life. You learn a lot about yourself when you put yourself in situations that shock your system. What kind of self-talk is going through your head? You will feel the stress and anxiety building into your chest but as you begin to slow your breathing and create positive affirmations in your mind the body begins to calm. Each time you do this you get better and better at it. You will improve each time you practice this and you will begin to realize that you can control the intense pressure you used to feel in your body when thinking about the difficult conversations you have to have from time to time or that presentation you have to give.
Don’t allow the siren song of the comforts of modern life hold you back or become a crutch. Get out there and test yourself. Pushing our physical and mental limits will provide you with a sense of achievement. The obstacles I choose to add to my life don’t come easily, including this newsletter, but I know if I can push past the resistance and set my mind to the task at hand, I will continue to get better. Embracing a growth mindset can drive you to learn new subjects, try new things, get comfortable in the unknown. This will help you be better equipped to handle the real struggles in life.
My long term mission is to help you take what you learn and apply it to all stressful situations in life, allowing you to handle it on your terms and avoid your emotions controlling your response. Don’t allow the modern world to turn you into a fragile person. Change your relationship with stress and become antifragile.
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