Earlier this week, I came across the phrase, “Man proposes, God disposes” in my daily stoic emails. In life, we have very little control over the outcome of events but we do control the plan we put in place and how hard we work. We must be ready for whatever comes our way.
The phrase above is similar to Nietzsche’s saying, “Amor Fati,” meaning, “a love of one’s fate”. While you could take this to mean, be content with whatever happens, but that is a cynical approach. “Amor Fati” truly means accepting everything that happens in life - the good, the bad, and the ugly. These are all part of crafting the person we become.
So often, we are stuck worrying about the past, our mistakes and failures, or worrying about the future outcome of events. This causes our performance to suffer and wastes energy. Instead of wasting time on these thought patterns and worries, enjoy the process. Go out each day and do the best you can. Put in the hard work to become a better person in professionally, personally, and our relationships with ourselves and others. All we control is the actions we take on a daily basis.
When a situation doesn’t turn out as we see planned, don’t pout. Instead of fighting negative events, learn from them. For example, reflect on whether the process broke down resulting in a missed mark or, was it something random and unforeseen. Whatever it was, accept it and move on. In the new year, work to accept what comes your way. Do not be content and float along in line. Understand that the tough times and failures shape you just as much, if not more than, the good times. You will have ups and downs this year, but keep doing the work. Keep giving life your all and attack it with enthusiasm. What comes to pass will come, we are all on different journeys and yours is uniquely your own.