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The Long Game - Issue #112

Well, I turned 40 this past week. It seems like such a big age. I remember my dad turning 40 and all
Taylor Somerville
The Long Game - Issue #112
By Taylor Somerville • Issue #112 • View online
Well, I turned 40 this past week. It seems like such a big age. I remember my dad turning 40 and all the “over the hill” stuff at his party and thinking that he was really old. Now that I am this age, it doesn’t seem old at all. I feel better mentally and physically than I have ever been. Each decade just keeps getting better and better. They definitely brought their own struggles but I was able to learn and grow from all of them.
My 20s were filled with way too much partying. Like most 20-year-olds, I graduated from college and started my career. You start making a little bit of money and want to go out and spend it and have a good time as much as possible. While I started to get back in shape at this point, running a marathon and getting back into the gym, I still went out way too much. I worked hard and was burning the candle at both ends. I battled depression and anxiety but did a good job of hiding it from everyone else. I’m surprised I didn’t completely breakdown but I guess that is youth. Towards the end of the decade, the financial crisis hit and my anxiety skyrocketed. I could no longer control it on my own and started therapy. I also met someone and started to settle down.
My 30s began with marriage and a completely new kind of stress. Navigating marriage, a stressful job, and life, in general, was incredibly difficult for me. It all broke down and I hit rock bottom at 35. When you look around and feel like everything is falling apart, this is when you have the choice to decide how you are going to respond. You can either lay down and quit or get up and keep moving. Everyone at some point will have a moment like this if not many and we all get choose how we respond. As I’ve mentioned before this is when I found breathwork and really decided to up my physical fitness. This was a major turning point in my life and put me on the positive path I am on now. It is during our darkest times when we decide how we will respond.
The workouts, the breathwork, the heat and ice, while physically demanding and beneficial this is secondary to the true purpose. Their true purpose is opening your mind to showing you what you can achieve. We all have self-limiting beliefs. We tell ourselves we can’t do something that we are too old. Maybe we want to run a 5k, lose 30 lbs, or make a career change. We all have the power inside of us to achieve our dreams, sometimes we just need a little push to guide us along the way. What I find in my own life and in those around me is that by starting to work out or getting in the ice you train your brain that you can do more than you previously thought. You learn you have greatness buried inside.
I know my 40s will come with their own set of problems but I know I can handle them. I have strong relationships and a will to continue. My main point in sharing all of this is to let you know that you can be the hero of your own story. If you are struggling right now set a goal and put together the step to complete it. Go out and take action and prove to yourself how powerful you really are.

If you’re looking to make a change in your life, this article is a must read. We all have the power to change but we must change how we look at ourselves. Part of that is proving it to yourself with small wins on a consistent basis. Once you start making small wins you will begin to enjoy the process and that is how long-term change happens. A love of the journey, not the end result.
We all use these defense mechanisms in some areas of our life. We we have a difficult task to complete or problem to deal with it is very easy to use avoidance to delay it as long as possible. We will do all the other little non-important tasks in our life first just to keep from doing the big ones we need to do. Checkout the article for a few more common defense mechanisms.
Confidence is built by proving to yourself you can do things. While you might not be successful every time the important part is taking action and to keep moving forward. The article discusses the idea of congruence too which means you must have the right goals for you. Don’t chase what society tells you. Sit down with yourself and figure out what you truly want then go get it.
Stimulating the vagus nerve is one of the keys to putting yourself in a calm relaxed state and one of the best ways to do this is through the breath. It is fascinating how this also affects your heart rate variability(HRV). Having a high HRV is beneficial for overall health and fitness. Checkout the article to find out more about the vagus nerve and your health.
Before I go, here are a few more interesting articles to check out.
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In Health,
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Taylor Somerville

The Long Game is a newsletter for people that want to grow and challenge themselves. It is about the drive to better ourselves mentally, physically, and spiritually while having the curiosity to enjoy the journey. I will include articles, podcast, videos, and blogs on a variety of topics ranging from psychology, fitness, meditation, and nutrition. I am a certified XPT Coach, I hold the Art of Breath certification, I am a CrossFit Level 1 trainer and hold the Aerobic Capacity certficate. Checkout my website to learn more about the services I offer.

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