Do you have trouble saying no? In today’s society, we are under constant pressure to do more in all areas of our lives. At times, it can be great to say “yes” to a lot and to try new things however, we must balance this with boundaries. If we say yes to everything, we spread ourselves too thin and are unable to focus on the essential. I read a book a couple of years ago called, “Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less
”, by Greg McKeown. This book breaks down Essentialism in great detail. If we want to make an impact, we can’t always say “yes.”
How often do you feel overwhelmed? A lot of this can be attributed to saying “yes” too often. For example, you are never able to give your full attention to a project if you have too many going on at once. I think part of the problem is that we are afraid to say “no.” We believe we will hurt someone’s feelings or our boss will get mad. The truth is, people will respect you more if you tell them the truth. When you do say “yes”, they will know you mean it and you will put your full attention to the work at hand.
I struggle with when to say “no” and realize one reason for this comes from a fear of missing out. If I don’t say “yes” to this project, I might be missing my big break. It is important to say “yes” more often early in your career so that you can build experience and figure out what you are good at, you must cut with a vengeance later on. Focus on the few projects that will provide the biggest impact and give yourself time to do the deep work. When trying to figure out what to say yes to, ask yourself, “Is this the most important thing I can be doing right now?” General Eisenhower’s says it best when he says, put the important and the urgent tasks before anything else.
That is it from me this week, let’s jump into this week’s links.