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By Hale Fannar Ethan (fae/faer, masculine and neutral language)

Intersex and Recugender

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Intersex and Recugender
Today’s issue includes intersex affirmation, a recugender art show, concepts for boyfriends and eggs, and flash fiction about two bros on a bridge.

Intersex Affirmation
You deserve your place in the queer community alongside more often talked about identities.
You are not a birth defect. You are human just like perisex people are.
You deserve people who understand your unique needs and experiences.
You deserve to have bigotry against you spoken about, loudly and clearly, that interphobia and perinormativity are unacceptable inside and outside the queer community.
You deserve to be sought out and compensated fairly for your expertise.
You deserve people who will stand with you and fight for you.
You deserve to be more than just The Intersex Person to others.
You deserve to be listened to even when there is no highly publicized bigotry happening to you or other intersex people at the moment.
You do not need anything else to be queer. Intersex people are queer, period!
Recugender Art Show
nine vertical stripes, from left to right: pink, dark lavender, dark blue, green-ish blue, light blue, green-ish blue, dark blue, dark lavender, and pink. some stripes have square edging that interlocks it with the next stripe.
nine vertical stripes, from left to right: pink, dark lavender, dark blue, green-ish blue, light blue, green-ish blue, dark blue, dark lavender, and pink. some stripes have square edging that interlocks it with the next stripe.
horizontal stripes, from top to bottom: light blue, blue, greenish-blue, dark lavender, and pink.  They are interlocked with squarish notches.
horizontal stripes, from top to bottom: light blue, blue, greenish-blue, dark lavender, and pink. They are interlocked with squarish notches.
horizontal stripes, from top to bottom: light blue, pink, dark lavender, greenish-blue, and blue.  They are interlocked with squarish notches.
horizontal stripes, from top to bottom: light blue, pink, dark lavender, greenish-blue, and blue. They are interlocked with squarish notches.
25 vertical stripes from left to right, repeating in a pattern: pink, dark lavender, light blue, greenish-blue, dark blue. some stripes have square notches that interlock it with the next stripe.
25 vertical stripes from left to right, repeating in a pattern: pink, dark lavender, light blue, greenish-blue, dark blue. some stripes have square notches that interlock it with the next stripe.
Recugender: “To identify with your birth gender, but you refuse to be cis; to be used as recugirl or recuboy. From the latin word ‘recuso’, meaning ‘to refuse’.”
“This is just cis people saying ‘cis’ is a slur!” No it’s not. There are many queer people who need words like “recugender” to communicate their experiences.
“Cis people are going to take advantage of this!” Non-queer people have been taking advantage of queer labels since they started learning about them. Transphobic cis men have been signing up for women’s competitions and dating apps in an effort to “prove” that trans women have an advantage in such places; and misogynistic allostraight men have been harassing monosexual lesbians because the patriarchy teaches them that they deserve whatever they want from women: “Come on, baby, sexuality is fluid~”. Non-queer people taking advantage of queer terminology is nothing new, and it’s no reason not to embrace queer people using language that helps them communicate their experiences.
It is never “complicated” queer people’s fault that non-queer people make life harder for “simple” queer people. The only reason some queer people are more “complicated” than others is because society centers and values non-queer experiences.
Labels can be very affirming for people. It lets them know that they’re not freaks, that there’s other people out there just like them.
People such as:
  • intersex people who identify with their assigned gender. As a consequence of society being perinormative; intersex people often have very different experiences with gender, including their assigned gender; than perisex cis, perisex trans, and perisex nonbinary people.
  • plural headmates whose gender matches the assigned gender of the system body.
  • nonbinary people who identify with their assigned gender in some way, or alongside other genders they identify as.
  • trans people who; due to rhetoric spewed by truscum, transmeds, and other gatekeepers; don’t feel like they’re allowed to identify as transgender.
  • butches and femmes who have complicated relationships with womanhood.
  • people who are uncomfortable with the lack of agency involved in being assigned a gender.
  • people who are experimenting with their gender(s).
I hope that this helps explain recugender to you, so that recugender people don’t have to do it. More importantly, I hope recugender people have your love and support going forward.
Just because you and I might not have need for such language, doesn’t mean other people don’t. You might not need the terms “genderfluid”, “ace”, and “aro” to describe your experiences, but I do. If you can embrace me as part of queerness, you can embrace recugender people too.
Life is more complicated than binary thinking can handle. Don’t turn cis and trans into a binary either.
Additionally, if it helps, I prefer to think of it as “refusing to allow perisex binary cisnormativity define your relationship to your AGAB”, instead of the current “refusing to be cis” framing.
Boyfriend Concepts
  1. boyfriend 1 wearing boyfriend 2’s clothes.
  2. reincarnating boyfriends.
  3. boyfriends volunteering at a food pantry together.
  4. boyfriend who streams gameplay and boyfriend who films video essays.
  5. boyfriends starting a podcast together.
  6. boyfriends adopting a cat together.
  7. cat boyfriends.
  8. dog boyfriends.
  9. jellyfish boyfriends.
  10. snail boyfriend and slug boyfriend.
  11. panromantic boyfriend and biromantic boyfriend.
  12. recugender boyfriends.
  13. intersex boyfriends.
  14. boyfriends performing the YMCA song together.
  15. boyfriends who met each other at a renaissance fair.
Egg Concepts
  1. an egg trying makeup for the first time.
  2. eggs trading clothes.
  3. reincarnating egg trying different genders each life.
  4. an egg loving their new haircut.
  5. an egg trying a different presentation style at work.
  6. an egg trying on a different name each day.
  7. an egg discovering their gender from an LGBT wiki.
  8. eggs swapping genders.
  9. a dozen eggs going shopping together.
  10. an egg buying pride merch they really vibe with and discovering more about themself.
  11. eggs journeying to the center of the gender.
  12. an egg calling themself different gendered terms.
  13. an egg stumbling upon a new gender through a twitter thread.
  14. eggs learning about themselves as they study queer history together.
  15. an egg making a flag for their new gender.
On a Bridge, Under Moonlight (Flash Fiction)
The sky was aglow with stars and the moon, skimpily veiled by translucent wisps. Their light shimmied across the river below: a dance admired by two bros on a bridge.
Quin, taller and twunkier, in a fleece-lined bomber jacket emblazoned with the genderfaun flag, leaned his head on Jackson’s. Jackson, whose double-chinned babyface looked even cuter in xyr bi pride beanie, likewise leaned into Quin.
Jackson started it. A peck on Quin’s jaw. Quick and casual.
When Quin realized what had happened, he swooped in on Jackson’s lips. Jackson smiled, and soon the dancing lights were abandoned for another joy.
Announcement
With our producer focusing on streaming right now as well as working forty hours at a paying job, there simply isn’t enough time in their day or energy in their body to do all that and produce a weekly newsletter. We’re really sorry to have to halt production of Queersletter so suddenly.
We might restructure into a monthly newsletter rather than a weekly one, but as we have no concrete plans yet, we will simply say:
Thank you for taking time to read this; enjoy what you do here and everywhere 👑
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Hale Fannar Ethan (fae/faer, masculine and neutral language)

queer art and affirmation

by a trans masc genderfluid aroace autistic writer & artist

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