If you’ve known me for several years, then you probably know that being my friend around April and May is a bit of a pain. I start singing about my birthday a month before and always remind everyone that yes, I am growing older, and you all need to know. Not left out of that picture is my family. My sister suffers the worst end of it constantly having to listen to me go on for hours about goals that I may never achieve.
This year, my mum was at the receiving end of my nuisance as I kept telling her that I am turning 22. As I went on rambling, I kept telling her that I want to feel mature. I knew, in turn, that she’d probably give me generic advice that would wear me out and send me on my way or phenomenal advice that would be life-changing. And she did-just not in the way I had imagined it. She told me that she would want to see me tell myself that I need to do things. In the same way, I tell myself it’s time to read; she wants me to ask myself, “Hey, it’s evening; what are people going to eat?”
Now before you brand me lazy, I pretty much participate in house chores. But I do them out of duty. I do them because they need to be done. Nevertheless, in the evening, as I wrote in my last newsletter, I bask around the streets of twitter fully assured that however tired my mother is, she will cook dinner and do the evening dishes. It has never crossed my mind that I should do it because people need to eat anyway.
I feel like this simple advice is much like General McRaven’s case for making your bed in the morning. As we pass through life and as the years pass on, we live as if we are rehearsing what our lives will be-forgetting that we are living it. We often tell ourselves, “When I get rich…I will” or “if I had WiFi in my house, then I would…” and so on, yet living in present moments counts for everything. At the 2014 commencement ceremony at the University of Texas,
General McRaven profoundly says, “If you want to change the world, start by making your bed.” In the same vein, I think turning 22 for me will be about telling myself to cook dinner or wash the dishes. I believe that is life-changing advice.
P.s. You can hit the reply button and send me any advice that you’ve held dear and that you’d want to pass on to me.😜
Have a great week ahead!