Let’s chat about dating for a second. 😉
(1) Simply put, a true relationship requires 2 main components:
Time & Energy.
For me, relationships are like adding another startup/business to your schedule. If you can manage it then consider it, if you can’t then don’t let it cloud your judgement.
That’s not to say it isn’t possible. Just remember it’s a 2 person relationship and if you don’t have those 2 components, then it really isn’t fair for either party involved.
Personally, when first diving fully into BitPerks
I put all outside commitments (especially dating) to an end. Allowing me to singularity focus
on my startup - and I haven’t regretted my decision for a second.
As for those already in a relationship here’s a great quote by Naval that I come back to often:
When you’re dating, the instant you know this relationship is not going to be the one that leads to marriage, you should probably move on. When you’re studying something, like a geography or history class, and you realize you are never going to use the information, drop the class. It’s a waste of time. It’s a waste of your brain energy.
Toxic people are a bit easier to identify.
As they are likely taking away your time & energy through negative judgement.
I recommend creating a shortlist with the top 5 people in your life that elevate you, and the top 5 people that bring you down.
This will allow you to recognize those who aren’t bringing value to your life.
Now let’s chat about lifelong friendships
There are 2 ways I recommend approaching this:
1) Setup recurring calls (ex: I have a booked call with my closest friends every 2 weeks to catch up)
2) Actively meeting 1-2 new people every week either through cold email, message, or close connection recommendation.
Relationships are honestly soo underrated yet they are considered one of the “pillars” of having an awesome life. So don’t take it lightly.