I’m writing this on a flight home from Korea. I was in Japan for Devcon 5. My flight was cancelled due to the typhoon. I had to rebook and fly through Seoul a day later.
I sat next to a soft spoken 75 year old Japanese man. At one point during the 12+ hour flight, we both paused at the same time from doing what we were doing.
He asked me if I traveled much.
I explained I used to but don’t anymore. He described how he traveled a lot for the first part of his career. He then switched jobs to travel less and be home with his young family.
We talked about the importance of being around and our children grow up. I told him I feel fortunate to be my own boss, more or less.
This means I can set my own schedule, take our son to school daily and pick him up as necessary. I can choose where and when I want to travel.
The man told a couple stories about one of his sons. His son was twice offered new jobs that promised to double his salary and more. One catch would be long working hours and lots of travel.
The first time this happened, the son asked his dad’s advice. His dad told him that family was more important than money. The son passed on the job.
The second time the son received an offer, he “knew what to do”, as his dad described it. The son turned that offer down too.
I felt touched and inspired hearing this exchange. It’s not the usual Dream pursuit story. I started to wonder how this happened.
The man described how he believes we each have a purpose in life. I added that many times we pursue purposes others think we should pursue, rather than our true purpose.
This topic’s been on my mind as I’ve been reading Reboot by Jerry Colonna. (See the Current Reading List for details 👇) Jerry talks a lot about how the purpose of our life is to discover and fulfill our true purpose.
Then the man described to me how he almost died.
It was during the recovery from this near death experience the man changed his perspective. He stopped pursuing The Dream
after it. He had been pursuing The Dream before it.
I sat with this story for a bit. It started me thinking about The Dream’s power.
How is it that often something as powerful a near death experience is required to stop pursuing The Dream?
In my own life, even a near death experience didn’t get me off The Dream’s path. I almost got blown up on a train during college. I’ll probably write more about this later.
For now, I mention it only to say that I kept pursuing The Dream after this happened. Something shifted in me, for sure. Yet it took a while for the shift to manifest in way that got me off The Dream path.
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Catch you next week,