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Pursuing The Dream Is Comfortable, Pursuing Ours Isn't


Just Rolling with It

October 29 · Issue #112 · View online

Pursuing our dreams, not theirs.

Ideas on pursuing our individual dreams, not the dreams of others. Learning to hear our inner voice to guide us toward them while filtering out the noise of modern society’s dream pushers.

Pursuing The Dream is comfortable. Or at least I used to believe that.
It was comfortable because I didn’t find myself second guessing my pursuit of it. It was comfortable because it was easy to fit into a society of Dream pushers and chasers.
It was easy to find someone to complain to about the pursuit. Fridays were fantastic. Mondays sucked. It was safe to relate to people this way, because I knew they wouldn’t object.
Yet that comfort was a thin, external veil of comfort. It’s the one I numbed myself into believing. Inside, I was excruciatingly uncomfortable as a human in my own skin.
I had trouble looking myself in the mirror. I never smiled. The Dream’s mirage of comfort was tearing me apart inside.
Just Rolling with It’s teaching me to pursue my Dream, not The Dream. In sharing my experience, I hope it may encourage you to do that, too.
Pursuing our dreams isn’t comfortable. It’s uncomfortable.
It’s full of risk and in my case, fear. Risk and fear make most of us feel uncomfortable.
It’s hard to find others to relate to. As a result, pursuing our dreams can feel lonely, like we’re going it alone.
Pursuing our dreams makes small talk hard, since the usual rules don’t apply.
It’s also easy to second guess ourselves when pursuing our dreams. The Dream Pushers like it that way.
I imagine this comfort vs. The Dream, not their Dream. I know it’s what kept me Dream chasing for a long time.
And it’s not as if I voluntarily stopped chasing The Dream. In fact, I did set an intention to stop my chase. Yet its external conditions caused me to dive in, head first. That happened about a year after setting the intention.
Previous experience going back to chasing The Dream and the misery it caused me stopped me from going back to the chase.
Comfort, or at least the perception of it, is a powerful, powerful force. In fact, as I search for a way to end this issue, I’m coming to realize it’s this perceived comfort that’s a primary source of The Dream’s power.
How about you?
If you’re chasing The Dream, do you take solace in the comfort it promises to deliver? If so, does it really deliver on that promise?
Let me know by replying directly to this email. I respond to every reply.
Catch you next week,
Semi-Random Thoughts
I’m racing to finish this issue, as the day closes and I’m off to pick up my son at school. While these days feel short and rushed from a work perspective 😬, I try and remind myself that I’m fortunate to have these opportunities to pick him up and drop him off via bike, especially at these early stages of his life… 😊🙏
On a related note, I think I finally found our family’s first station wagon 🚴‍♂️💪😊
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