(Note: I wrote this yesterday morning.)
I missed last week’s issue and am up at 4:30 AM to prepare for my third 100 mile Father’s Day 🚴♀️ Ride. I didn’t want to miss two issues in a row. Now’s probably the only chance I’ll get to write it.
Today’s topic came to me as I was making tea this morning. Had I been chasing the dream when our son was born, I would have been a disaster as a dad.
As it is, I became a dad later than most. Our son was born when I was 42. I wasn’t ready before that, not even close to being ready.
42 is late by The Dream’s standard expectations. I also didn’t (and don’t) own a house. I didn’t even have a set career path then. I’m not sure that I do now. These are all failures from The Dream’s perspective.
I could have had those things by then. I chose the JRWI path instead.
Instead of The Dream’s rewards, which would have made me miserable chasing, I feel much happier and show up as a better version of me. I’m a better and happier version of me for me, my marriage/partnership and family.
The opposite, i.e. choosing The Dream would have been a disaster. I know because I lived the Dream’s destructive promise growing up.
Today, on Father’s Day, I feel grateful for not repeating that cycle 🙏
How about you? Are you a dad? Is Dream chasing compatible with your dad journey?
Let me know by replying directly to this email.
Happy Father’s Day to all you dads and aspiring dads out there😊
Now, off to ride 😬😉