I’ll be aiming to publish there daily(!) for the month of June. Hoping quantity leads to quality. I’ll only include my favorites in this newsletter, every Tuesday.
💭 On my mind
🐵 You are not built for 2020. A common theme across the books I read last month: civilization has lapped human evolution many times over. This is why minor issues can trigger asymmetric emotional responses. Your brain believes rejection is a matter of life and death because there was a time where exclusion from the tribe was death. Much of your current internal processes are leftovers from the past.
🥰 Make your people feel like this emoji.That moment when you’re talking to someone and you internally compliment them? Stop doing that—they can’t hear you! I wrote this.
🕐 Time doesn’t care. Choose to kill time or invest in time. Time doesn’t care what you choose, it will pass at the same speed regardless.
❓ Curiosity as a cure to social anxiety. When you’re feeling socially anxious, you’re typically ‘in your own head’. You’re playing defense, trying to anticipate the right thing to say or the right face to make in response to the person talking. Try playing offense by being curious. Ask questions you don’t know the answer to, or bring up a topic you’ve been thinking about. You can’t be in your own head when you’re playing offense.
📚 Books of the week
The Way of Men by Jack Donovan. This book describes the historical role of a man, how that’s changed over time, and what that means for the future of society. It explains, in the author’s opinion, you can be a good man—a moral pursuit—but that doesn’t mean you’re good at being a man—a skill largely tied to strength, due to a man’s responsibility to ‘protect the perimeter’ for his tribe. The author argues that our lives have become too comfortable and masculinity has suffered for it. An edgy read, but ultimately an interesting look at the role of men in society.
Reading now: The Power of Focusing: Finding Your Inner Voice by Ann Cornell. This book is every bit as “out there” as it looks BUT I’m giving it a shot. Focusing, to me, seems to build on the Buddhist concept of recognizing emotions instead of identifying with them.
👋 See you next Tuesday!
Thanks for reading. Here’s a quote I’ve been thinking about this week, from a Nat Eliason tweet:
Boring people are the ones whose ideas you immediately know the source of.