Issue #54: Shaping perception

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James Costa

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Lately I’ve been thinking about the complex relationship managers and employees have. While managers try to be more personable (since 50% of people leave jobs due to bad managers) to shape culture, a negative consequence is their not being taken seriously. The perception an employee has of their manager has a significant impact on how they treat them and adapt to needs. As managers model behavior and culture for their teams, the balance between friendly and professional is easily blurred.

This becomes more difficult when managers have responsibilities not often seen publicly. This unspoken friction between producers and managers can display itself through a sense of apathy and lack of urgency from employees or passive aggressive comments. Sigmund Freud suggested jokes serve two purposes: aggression, or to expose desire. Jokes may be used as a way to express frustration and serve as a unconscious cue to others that a level of respect has changed.

Employees have high expectations for managers (some of which may come from previous experiences), and being conscious of how your words and actions are perceived is important. If you’re constantly going from trying to be an employee’s best friend to communicating an issue with them, one will downplay the other. Being conscious about what you share and what it says about you helps. This subtle detachment allows employees to have a more consistent experience with managers, balancing authenticity with authority. (Kinda makes you wonder whether that crappy teacher you had in high school was actually trying to protect their authority.)

Though it might seem that I’m making the problem out to be on employees, I believe the blame lies with managers. While they may have different leadership styles, managing the perception their teams have of them is crucial. Managers who effectively communicate their value and pitch in to help whenever they can have teams who do the same.

Early on, we strived for a fairly flat structure to our team. While trying to avoid the speed bumps that hierarchies can create, I traded the title of “boss” for building relationships. What I didn’t realize is that you can do both. I still grapple with the ability to balance life with communicating my role, and I’m reminded that crafting a culture takes work.

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Resources

The Dark Side of High Employee Engagement

hbr.org – Share

📰 6m: Interesting twist on something we all strive for: while there’re many benefits to high engagement, the side effects need to be weighed. Complacency can be crippling for any company in a changing market.

The 9 questions that uncover the most surprising insights from employees

m.signalvnoise.com – Share

📰 5m: Fantastic questions from the folks of Know Your Company - definitely something for everyone use at the next performance review or team check-in. In particular, I love “Is there something we should measure in the company that we currently don’t?”

The benefits and challenges of running a slow-growing business

clearleft.com – Share

📰 6m: “As rapid growth is considered the yardstick of start-up culture, it’s unsurprising that the majority of how-to articles focus on the challenges of running a fast-moving business. So how do you embed culture when your team has grown from 30 to 100 people in less than a month? How do you ensure your infrastructure is up to the task when your user base is doubling every few weeks? And how to you keep the company going when your monthly payroll is in the millions, but your income is in the thousands?”

Motivation

“Leaders who win the respect of others are the ones who deliver more than they promise, not the ones who promise more than they can deliver.”

― Mark A. Clement

Closing

I made $100 in the last week and oh man I think I’m addicted. 🤑

In other news, I just finished cutting tracks for Vita Chambers’ performance at Indy Pride. The thought of thousands of people dancing along with her to something I had a small part in is pretty unreal. 🤘 🏳️‍🌈

As always, if you have any questions or I can help you in any way, all you have to do is respond to this email!

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