I say sorry a lot. Like, a lot
. Most of the time I say it without it really being necessary. This might be because I’ve spent a lot of my life in some sort of customer service-centric role (from running a company to working at Pizza Hut) or being raised by Catholic parents who immigrated to Canada… or just being Canadian
. Really, I’ve found it tends to be my competitive advantage in a world where personal brand helps you cut through the noise.
More foundationally, we’ve forgotten the importance of manners.
I’m profoundly against the idea that having manners makes you a weaker person (especially in business). It has less to do with making yourself less threatening
, and more about showing empathy (and building stronger relationships in the process). That doesn’t mean we aren’t using the word sorry inappropriately
, but I think the world could use with more people saying please, thank you, and sorry.
When I worked with schools and community organizations as a speaker, I would always share a story about the power of a smile that someone told me. Essentially, instead of passing by others on the street and avoiding looking at them or ignoring them completely, this person tried to smile at everyone. This got a lot of strange stares, but one day that smile was received by someone who was on their way to serious surgery and changed that person’s day. While an email, a message, or a call might not seem like much to many people to tell them they’re appreciated, ask how they’re doing, or apologize personally about something: these simple acts of kindness are powerful.
As leaders, we’re in roles where building relationships is a massive part of our job, and one of the easiest ways we can do that is by being relatable. How do you use small actions and your manners to your advantage?
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PPS: I’m playing around a bit with the section below since I noticed it generally doesn’t get a lot of action. I’ve now added read / watch counts, and a type of resource it is (in the coming weeks I’ll work to add things other than just articles) - what do you think? Do you find these resources useful?
PPPS: Sorry this week’s post is shorter!