View profile

Get Comfortable Being Uncomfortable

“Growth and comfort do not coexist.”  - Ginni Rometty
Where Leaders Learn
Get Comfortable Being Uncomfortable
By Gillian Davis • Issue #28 • View online
“Growth and comfort do not coexist.”  - Ginni Rometty

Before we start - I need your help! This year I’d like to release another book. Not another 300-page hardcover but a punchy, helpful and accessible guide to help leaders do their jobs better. Leadership is such a broad topic so I am looking for you guys to help narrow down the topic. You can vote via our twitter poll. 
Gillian ♠️
☎️ Calling all Leaders ☎️ @OverTimeLeader is going to launch an e-book this year and we want to know which topic would help you most 👇 👇 👇
Excited to announce that last week we kicked off the first cohort of the Creative Leadership program, in partnership with YCN. This 12-week program aims to cover the essentials of leadership by introducing the group to a mix of theory, tools, and experts. More details to come but one of the biggest takeaways from the first session was the notion that Leadership is uncomfortable.
I got them there by using an exercise known as ‘SuperHero’ I often use to warm up and wake up new groups. I was introduced to this exercise at ustwo as they use it to increase team dynamics.  If you’d like to try it, it goes something like this;
  • The first step is done individually and involves identifying your 3 strengths, weaknesses, and motivations. 
  • Then you have to draw what your ‘superhero’ would look like.
  • Once complete you then have to stand up and explain how your SuperHero. 
Although it sounds pretty straightforward I have found that it is often met with a level of resistance (I’ve discovered that most adults really hate the thought of having to draw and share). The last part always starts with a large initial ‘cringe factor’ followed by laughter and insight.
This exercise has multiple benefits but the two that I love most are;
  1. It calls for on the spot reflection and, 
  2. Gets people to talk about themselves on a level playing field (they all had to go through the cringy experience together).
After everyone presents I ask how many found the exercise ’uncomfortable’.
Often I am met with a lot of hands up in the air.
I follow up by asking how many found it ’challenging’.
Same result.
And that is the first lesson when wanting to transition from manager to leader.
Leadership is both uncomfortable and challenging.
When asked, most people would rather be a lead (empower) than manage (control). The majority of people show up to my workshops and classes are keen to develop their knowledge on how to lead their teams better. However, when you start to unpick what leading really means (patience, empathy, vision, communication) I often see people default back to old management habits (ie. control, blame, avoiding conflict, avoiding change).
Listen, I’ve been there too - we are human! It takes a lot of energy to empower others but as we ride out this 'new year, new you’ energy I urge you to lean into the discomfort when working on your leadership skills. This looks like; welcoming the hard feedback, speaking up in meetings, challenging the status quo and having those hard conversations.
The more comfortable you get being uncomfortable, the more you will be able to actually lead your teams.
Think about it 🤔
Podcast 🔊
Nafisa Bakkar | CEO Amaliah | Leveling Up Leadership
Attend 👩‍🎓
How To Lead Your Life Event | London | General Assembly
Did you enjoy this issue?
Gillian Davis

Helping leaders inspire and enable their teams.

Author: First Time Leader // //
Reach out @gilliandavis07

If you don't want these updates anymore, please unsubscribe here.
If you were forwarded this newsletter and you like it, you can subscribe here.
Powered by Revue