Hello unicorn, baby! How are you this fine Monday? Hanging in there I hope.
I’ve been having a lot of inner musings lately on self-awareness. It feels like there are so few people out there who possess this incredibly important and incredibly rare quality. Instead of looking at their own actions, critically assessing them, and considering why the consequences played out the way they did - they often go off on the attack, basically denying that what they did was incorrect, rude, or out of line. This is a HUGE pet-peeve of mine.
It’s been a constant in the last few weeks. People in my personal and professional lives have been coming at me from all directions trying to make me feel like shit for the sake of feeling like shit. I know to my core that this is based on a lack of self-awareness and reflection. People don’t want to admit when they’ve made a mistake. It’s so much easier to just say, “No, you’re wrong. I’m not like ‘the thing you said I am.’” It’s ironic, really, because the freakout is quite telling in itself. Calm, rational people don’t have meltdowns when you say something critical about their behavior, no matter how severe that criticism may be. Rational people think: Hm, why is this person cross with me? What did I do that could have caused this disturbance? How can we fix this?
People have been driving me up a wall lately. People I like. People I respect. Some people I fucking hate, too, tbh. People with … no boundaries. It’s these people who just don’t understand how to do anything but stick their heads in the sand and choose their own convoluted hills to die on. And there’s no changing them, which is something I’m coming to terms with slowly, but surely. You can’t force someone to be rational. No amount of shaking them and screaming: JUST BE A NORMAL HUMAN! is going to knock sense into them. Too many emotions, not enough thinking.
Have you ever had one of those weeks where it feels like every single person is trying to fuck with your day? I’ve been going through this every single day for the last couple of weeks. One stupid thing after another. Another fire to put out. Another dramatic over-reaction where I’m expected to do emotional and creative labour where I simply don’t have the capacity or time to do so.
I am finished with emotional, irrational people. I’m an adult person who wants to have adult, mature relationships with my friends and people in my field. I don’t have time for dramatic teenage text fighting bullshit or brands who think it’s my job to do their job for them.
It’s emotionally exhausting when people have unrealistic expectations and then blame you for not meeting those expectations. Do you have anyone like that in your life right now?
This week’s mantras:
- I will make choices based on rational thinking, rather than emotion.
- I will set boundaries with people who are emotional vampires.
- I will only take on as much as I can handle and refuse to apologize for that.
I love you. Have a great week.