I don’t know about you, but I am a hot mess if I don’t have an orgasm every single day. I know orgasms aren’t everything and not everyone needs them or even wants them, but damn. I really do.
When I get anxious, I sometimes can’t come. Which leads to me thinking I CAN’T come which then leads me to not coming - rise and repeat.
When it comes to orgasm we subconsciously stunt ourselves sometimes. A lot of the time, we don’t keep pushing for more pleasure because we’re holding ourselves back mentally. People raised as women are not told their pleasure matters. We’re told that we should give our partner pleasure, and if we get a little, that’s cool but not necessary. Add in all the pressure we have about body image and BAM! No orgasms to be found.
Breaking the cycle: Tell yourself over and over again that your pleasure is bountiful. Put aside the negative thoughts. Think with determination: I am going to have an orgasm today.
Try focusing on one sexual fantasy. I always get fucked up when I try to do too many things at once in my noggin. Or! Watch some porn. Yeah, that’ll keep your grounded.
I know this is easier said than done, but we all have to give ourselves a break. I essentially didn’t do creative jack-all because my brain wasn’t working after not getting off for a few days. It sucked and it made me anxious, but if your head isn’t on right, how are you supposed to get shit done, let alone done well?
Anyway, what I mean to say is, pass the vibrator.
This week’s mantras:
- I am a vibrant, sexual human.
- I am vulnerable, but I am not weak.
- I am not searching for my other half half. I am not a half.
I love you. Have a great week!