As we wrap 2020, this week’s edition is going to focus on annual reviews. I’ve compiled here a list of various modalities for reflection. You’re welcome to use as many or as few of them as you like: 📅
DYL- Design Your Life-
shoutout to Michael Rihani for introducing me to this a few years back. Visually, the main technique looks like this #win diagram
or this other ikigai diagram
. The main idea is to focus on intersectionality rather than things that oppose each other. I think of it as a collaboration among the various parts within me, rather than a competition. 🍥
The phrase “yes, and…” comes to mind when thinking of DYL. How can I say yes to one thing and another instead of yes to one thing OR another? For example, wanting to do more paddleboarding and hangout with friends turns into…invite friends paddleboarding 🚣
Yearly Review free-form- this is something I made up myself. I usually find a quiet place, gulp down a bunch of Miralax, and then have an epic brain dump. 💩 Sometimes this has taken 5 hours straight. I write anything epic that happened throughout the year, stuff I liked, disliked, want to do again. It’s free form for a reason!
I have this weird condition where I have to improve things constantly. One of the benefits is that I don’t necessarily need a framework to remind myself to focus on improving. If you also have this condition, consider a more free form approach, as the improvements will happen automatically.
Remember, the act of re-membering is to make something a member, again. Often this occurs with memories. What’s cool about this is that they are totally editable! Re-membering can allow us to live moments again, change how we interpret those moments or even change how we originally experienced them, and live that! In the final case, it’s not “re-membering” because it’s constructing something new, so I’d liken it to simply membering. 🙇♀️
A play on words with business reports. This website can automate your review process. Honestly, I thought it was a bit lame, but you may like it! 💹
a recurring guest star within this newsletter. Their list of life-changing questions is a good thing to do at the end of the year. 🤔
Sentimental Folder- this is a digital folder I keep simply for sappy, sentimental stuff. I don’t consider myself a photog, yet my images folder on my phone is easily in the thousands. Much of them aren’t sentimental, though. They may be screenshots of receipts, for example– not a sappy thing most of the time—the sentimental folder for sappy things, major life events, and my reflections around them. 🤓
Tim Ferriss’s review process-
the link has more details, but the simple way to think of it is to note highs and lows. Then, delete the lows in the future, or heal from them, and schedule repeat highs in advance.
Much of my personal philosophy of life works around this idea. My deepest fear is to live an unfulfilling life. The gold is that turning that around helps me discover what a fulfilling life is. And, it is simply a series of fulfilling days! A day is 24 hours; a week is 7 days, 4.3 weeks make a month, 12 months make a year…ok, you get it! Thinking of it this way makes it simple. Just plan out what a great day looks like for you, and repeat that fucker as many times as you can! You can, of course, use the resources above for periodic reflection, as your idea of a great day will likely change over time, which is perfectly ok.