I’ve managed to find time to read books
I started Sharper Objects
after watching the series. I’m always interested to look at how an author pulls of such a successful story. So far, I don’t have any searing insights. It’s just interesting and easy to read. That’s insight enough.
My highlights so far:
- “I was already tired of talking, and I’d said very little.”
- “I wished then that I hadn’t sucked down so much vodka. My thoughts were vaporizing, I couldn’t hold on to what he was saying, couldn’t ask the right questions.”
Meanwhile, there’s always the Noise in Your Head book
. After a good first start, around 75% done I’m still waiting for the parlor trick to be explained so it can be believed. So far, we’re still at “just tell anxiety to punch you in the face harder and then…” it will mysteriously stop punching you in the face?
We must “act as though” in our daily lives. If we didn’t, we could never accomplish anything. We couldn’t assume that the water from the faucet was clean. We couldn’t assume that gravity would continue to keep us grounded or that the earth would continue to spin. We make these assumptions without thinking about them. “Acting as though” allows us to take action. “Acting as though” permits us to drive to the beach on a day when there are no clouds and zero obligations.
Fake it until you make it. Got it.
“I’ve already decided that these worries are noise. Even though I feel insecure about that decision right now, I’m going to act as though the content is irrelevant. I’m going to step toward this challenge and see what I learn.” This will require your courage, because you are going to feel scared and step forward despite that fear.
Hmm, so to change your mind you just get brave enough to be able to change your mind, or at least act as if you’ve changed your mind. Yup.
To some extent, this “be courageous, and accept that you’ll fail and, keep reminding yourself that you’re fucked in the head” advice is serviceable:
If your goal is to take on the challenge, you cannot wait until you are certain you have enough skills, because certainty is not available to you beforehand. If you delay, waiting for your confidence to show up, then you’ll be waiting indefinitely. Therefore, it’s best to act as though you have enough skills to face the challenge. This too will be a courageous act.
The mindfulness stuff is still sort of interesting, if only as a reminder to observe yourself as if it were another self, and manage accordingly, e.g.,
This “mindfulness” is something you can adopt as well. Be alert when you’re approaching a scene where you tend to worry, and then mentally prepare yourself for how you want to respond. Because once you enter the scene, once you begin the activity, you will become more vulnerable to your worries, and it will be harder to break out of the pattern.
Have the courage to finish the book!