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Yonno for the past 2 weeks, we’ve been talking about frontend development. Backend guys are jealous and I even need us to take a break from serious talk.
Let’s talk about something fun. Something like🤔… heartbreaks!
People often say ‘tech bros are hoes’, ‘if she’s a tech sis, focus on yourself’ etc, but in reality, techies are humans too & for what it’s worth, this breakfast usually does go round.
So, I sat down to talk to 3 techies who graciously told me about their heartbreak experiences & how they had to maintain beauty while chopping heartache.
But there’s a way we’re going to do this.
Close your eyes. For real😒. Close your eyes. Now imagine that you and other subscribers to the newsletter are attending an event. Done? Great. Let’s start.
*MC walks to the stage.
MC: Welcome ladies and gentlemen to the Heartbreak edition of our Consonance Club event. To kick start things, let’s call on Samuel to lead us in the theme song.
Samuel: Ladies and gentlemen of the tech industry, I believe we all have our pamphlets? Please turn to page 2021, hymn 009. Heartbreak Anniversary written by Giveon. On the count of 1, 2, 3…..Go!
‘Balloons are deflated,
I guess they look lifeless like me,
We miss you on your side of the bed……’
MC: (after the hymn has been sung) Please let us now welcome Precious of Consonance on stage, as she interviews our 1st guest. (Applause.)
Precious: Welcome to the show Tayo. Please share your story with us.
Tayo: My girlfriend broke up with me sometime in April last year. Over the phone.
P: Ah. Over the phone😭?
Tayo: In her defence, we had not seen each other in a while, so we mostly communicate on the phone.
P: Oh okay. What caused the breakup?
Tayo: Well, it really can’t be attributed to one thing. But I remember she complained I wasn’t always calling or showing care like I used to before.
Tayo: You know, I think we both knew it was going to happen at some point, because I’d tried to break up earlier but we tried to patch things up.
P: Well, that obviously didn’t work out. How did you take it?
Tayo: Guyy. I was sad o, but I felt it was a necessary sacrifice. I was going through a rough patch at the time and needed time to clear my head.
I usually don’t show emotions but alaye, I cried.
P: Hard guy in the mud.
Tayo: 😂My sister! Anyway, I stumbled on a heartbreak thread on Twitter where people shared movies and songs that made them cry. I wanted to let out all my emotions, so I dug in.
I watched Miracle in Cell No 7. Mo de sun yati.
P: To our non-yoruba speaking friends, that means he cried like crazy.
P: How did you balance work & heartbreak?
Tayo: Plot twist. I got fired
Tayo: It wasn’t because of the heartbreak though. It was the pandemic. The timing was just coincidental. I was fired a few days after the breakup.
P: So, how did you get over it?
Tayo: One way I deal with disappointment is to focus all of my energy on working or building something.
3 months after the breakup, I left Lagos to a place that had 24/7 electricity, abundant food and I had cash. I started life all over again.
No job, no boo. Just me and my aspire to perspire.
Tayo: I worked on my CV, built a product and tried to launch a startup from it.
Tayo: Anyway, immersing myself in work helped me realize I wasn’t thinking about her that much again. I used the momentum to land a job in a top multinational fintech company.
P: Oshey.🙌Thank you for sharing.
MC: Right about now, we’ll go on a commercial break. When we come back, we’ll have our next interview session.