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Being A Parent And An Addict

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Leaving aside all of the other losses that come from drug addiction, the most heartbreaking consequence of the upheaval is the neglect, mistreatment, and even maltreatment of children — by their addicted parents.
Parents try to provide the best for their children at all times. Addiction to drugs and alcohol, on the other hand, typically affects their capacity to distinguish between reality and imagination. As a result, it is not unusual to see children of addicted parents in danger – in other words, mistreated.
The Consequences of Growing Up with an Addicting Parent!
Growing up with a parent or parents who are drug addicts have a major detrimental effect on children. Unfortunately, the effects may persist long into adulthood, even if the parent (or parents) has completely healed.
Some depressing statistics
Around nine million children under the age of seventeen live with at least one parent who has a history of drug addiction, according to a study released by the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA).
According to a new study from the Adoption and Foster Care Analysis and Reporting, parental drug addiction is often the leading cause of child removal, especially when combined with neglect.
Depending on the degree of carelessness, the effect on each kid varies. Different repercussions, on the other hand, appear in every area of a child’s existence, from the physical ability to social conduct. The following are some of the most frequent consequences for children whose parents are addicted:
·        Poor health as a result of fewer doctor’s visits and a lack of attention to medical treatment
·        Inability to do well in school
·        Social isolation
·        Poor cleanliness and grooming habits
·        Inability to trust people
·        Work and financial problems
According to statistics from the Partnership for Drug-Free Kids, children who grow up with addicts as parents are more likely to develop depression as adults. Children of substance-abusing parents are also more violent, have poor self-esteem, suffer from anxiety, and lack social competence, according to a study done by the University of North Carolina.
The saddest consequence of parents’ excessive use of alcohol and drugs, however, is the cyclic nature of the habit and how it is unwittingly handed down to children.
A significant percentage of imprisoned inmates and rehab patients confess to having a “tough” childhood in which they were subjected to physical, verbal, or sexual abuse as a result of their parent’s drug addiction.
Children with alcoholic parents are four times more likely to become addicted in adulthood than children from sober homes, according to SAMHSA research. They also claim that parents’ excessive drug usage puts their children at a greater chance of doing the same in the future.
How can I stop the pattern as a parent who is addicted?
This website is not intended to humiliate or make any parent feel guilty or uncomfortable. However, to recover your connection with your children, you must be open and honest with them about your vulnerability.
Most youngsters are more alert than we may think in this digital age. And, as powerless as they are in the face of your addiction, you must tell them that it is not their fault. Many children worry whether they had a role in their parent’s addiction and if the addicted parent would be able to rehabilitate if they, the children, behaved properly.
Restore their faith in you by assuring them that they are not at fault. Addiction is frequently misunderstood by young children as a disease that can be treated like any other with bed rest and over-the-counter medications.
Enlist assistance!
Regardless of the addiction, as a responsible parent, seek assistance from your spouse, a trustworthy family member, a friend, or even a social professional to explain the issue to your children. If the home situation is unsafe for the children, you may ask friends or government authorities for a safe atmosphere and a support center.
The journey back to health
Congratulations if you are a parent who has decided to get treatment. You’re well on your way to a fresh start. During and after the healing phase, however, relearning how to parent may be difficult. You may not have enough time to spend with your family since your early treatment days are packed with meetings, seminars, and going through the 12 Steps.
It’s also a good time to be selfish during recovery. Before turning their focus to their family and friends, the addicted parent must concentrate on themselves. Addicts go through a great deal of physical, emotional, and mental suffering. For a successful recovery, you must pay attention to your nutrition, physical health, and spiritual health throughout this period.
Family time, on the other hand, may become more difficult once you have finished addiction treatment and have been clean for some time. Because you ignored your children so much throughout your drug addiction, you may have difficulty reconnecting with them.
Furthermore, you may be inclined to ignore your children due to feelings of guilt, humiliation, and even dread. Due to the physical, emotional, and mental damage you inflicted throughout your addiction, your kid may be hesitant to associate with you.
Let’s have a look at some of the suggestions that may be useful throughout your recuperation period.
·        Admit to your children that you are experiencing difficulties and that you are seeking professional assistance.
·        Keep your commitments and show your children that you can be trusted again by apologizing to them for your errors.
·        Be respectful of your children’s apprehensions about you.
Above all, make an effort to spend time with your kids. There is no way to remove memories from your child’s life, but new ones may be created.
Pay attention to your children and provide them the affection they deserve. Allow children to see you as a sober, healthy, and loving father.
Wait patiently.
The path to rehabilitation is long and winding. It’s also not a quick or easy procedure that will take place overnight. It’ll take some time. However, it will take place. Show your children that you are a positive parent as you were intended to be by putting in a lot of work, commitment, and time.
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