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The Dandizette - Issue #12: The Undoing & Lupin

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The Dandizette is a newsletter by Yolanda Shoshana with a little bit of everything. Live life though your senses as you level up!

Bonjour dandy darling,
Ever since we went from the pandemic pause to normal, I’m been extremely busy. How about you? Some of it may be my fault. I’ve been having quite a bit of one on one time with friends. It’s been great to have good conversation and spots in NYC. One thing is for sure this city is not dead.
I’ve been having deep conversations with people about what they want to do next. There are those who hate their jobs, don’t know how to make a move, feel stuff, and the list goes on and on.
As some of you know I was in the “motivational guru” space for a bit. I left it due to the fact that so many of those lades are full of bs. However, if you want to buy a coaching program for $10,000 to “learn how to work from the beach”, by all means go for it.
Every day things pop up that can shake our confidence. There are so many people, places, and things that can strip away who we are at our core. The thing to remember is that someone’s opinion of you doesn’t control your destiny.
I just started a column called The Undoing. The word undoing means someone’s downfall. On the flip side, Sigmund Freud used the term to refer to a defense mechanism in which a person tries to cancel out or remove an unhealthy, destructive or otherwise threatening thought or action by engaging in contrary behavior. The column is a play on the word.
My first column was about Naomi Osaka. I think we can all learn a little something by choosing ourselves first.
Stay gold~ XOXO Shosh
To be dandy:
The Undoing: Osaka vs. The French Open
" the shift is about to get real"
" the shift is about to get real"
The tennis world was all a spin, because Naomi Osaka decided she was not there for the fuckery from the press. Osaka didn’t want to spend time talking to people who doubt her for the sake of her mental health. I say bravo. Good for her. Why should anyone stand in front of those who want to peel layers off of their self confidence?
The French Open came back with a $15,000 fine. It was their way of taking off their belt to give some discipline. Considering what Osaka makes in a month, the amount was probably like $1 to her. Money aside, the most important thing is that she wanted to play. She simply wanted no part of talking to the press, which is something the players are required to do. They even threatened to kick her out of the tournament if she did not grin and bear it with journalists. Due to feeling like all of the mess was getting too much attention, Osaka dropped out of the French Open.
While Osaka had huge support from fans and other athletes, it was very interesting to see who thought she should toughen up and talk to the press. My most interesting observation was that older white men were extremely opinionated on what Osaka “should do:”. You would have thought that she had left these dudes sitting in a press room all by themselves. Even the French Open had a shady tweet about athletes speaking to the press. They quickly deleted it after people went in on them for picking on someone choosing their mental health.
When I saw that John McEnroe had made a comment about Osaka on his podcast I was ready to cringe, but he surprised me with way more compassion than I expected. Maybe he learned a lesson or two after being dragged by Twitter when he tried to come for Serena. Then came Billie Jean King chiming in with her comments to remind Osaka that it was “her duty to speak to the press”. I get where King was coming from, but when she played years ago, the journalist game was different. There was respect between journalists and players. A lot of that has gone out of the window. These days some journalists don’t even bother to fact check.
I had to remind someone that the French Open has shown passive signs of racism and sexism in the past. Many of us felt like this was a part of what was a play when the French Open tried to discipline Osaka: How could this brown/Asian woman get uppity with them, doesn’t she realize who they are? In a most interesting twist, Roger Federer dropped out of the Open due to feeling like his body was not up for it. When he left the tournament it affected the structure and screwed a player out of position plus the opportunity to make more money while Osaka skipping a press conference affected no one. Federer was practically given hugs and kisses on his way out. Why was the treatment so different?
It’s been said there were no winners in the French Open vs Osaka incident. I think she won, because she chose herself first. Osaka has the power and wealth to do as she wishes for her mindset. May we all take a lesson from her playbook. Even though you may want to be a part of something for your career, if it chips away at your mental health, it isn’t worth it in the long run. It’s important not to lose yourself as you go for your goals and dreams. While we won’t like everything we have to do along the way, preservation of self means you always win.
To watch:
The second chapter of Lupin has dropped and it’s just as fun as the first chapter. If you are looking for a new show to check out, this is the one. It’s a modern take on the adventures of Arsène Lupin starring Omar Sy. Think fun, clever, and oh so French. The only problem is it will make you want to be in Paris and have a dog named J'accuse.
Lupin: Biggest Unanswered Questions After Part 2 | Screen Rant
If you want to watch something that will give you the feels, you should watch Wish Dragon on Netflix. It’s a cute animated movie that has an overall good message. While it has Aladdin vibes, there’s more to it. You don’t have to have kids to enjoy it. We all could learn a little something from it.
'Wish Dragon' and 'Cowboy Bebop': John Cho's Landed Some Huge Netflix Projects
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Yolanda Shoshana is an Intuitive, Culinary Historian, Producer/Project Manager, and Content Creator in NYC.

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