We all rally in some context or another in pivotal moments in our lives.
We rally and we find a way forward.
We rally to be our best when we need to be. Because that’s what we do. That’s who we are. No matter your walk of life, this past year has brought challenging day after challenging day. Every good day is a gift, every healthy day, every happy day, they are gifts and they are opportunities to start a rally. String those good days together and you get a rally going and you stay hot. Human beings are wired to find a way to persevere under extraordinary circumstances. No matter the nature of our struggles, we find ways forward.
Every time a batter comes to bat, they are trying to start rallies or keep them going every time they come to bat. Most at-bats, they fail: they make an out. Every rally ends, every game ends. Win or lose, you try again the next time.
That’s how you succeed: by getting back up and taking another hack at it. That’s what we do in our lives. We get up each day and try to start a rally. We find the strength within us to give our best efforts at being our best each day.
Some days bring grief and sadness that can feel exhausting at times. These feelings aren’t stronger than we are. There’s always strength to be drawn from life’s most challenging moments; we’re always capable of tapping into it.
What inspired me most this weekend was the strength that I saw and felt from my fiancée as she helped put together a beautiful memorial over Zoom for her late friend Erica
, with ~60 friends and family members in attendance.
It was hard. It was emotional. My fiancée did a lot of heavy lifting to help co-organize the event and make it special, and I think everyone in attendance agreed that it was a cathartic, lovely tribute. There was not a dry eye in sight.
When I first heard that my fiancée and two others close to Erica wanted to organize a memorial set for three weeks after her passing, I must admit, I was a little unsure of how good an idea it was. Now I am grateful that it happened.
I was unsure about it because I knew that the grief for those of us who knew Erica was still pretty raw when discussions on how to memorialize her best were being hashed out. My fiancée has been so strong through heavy grief and adding more hefty responsibility onto her shoulders in the form of co-organizing a classy memorial was a lot of pressure that I didn’t want for her.
Ultimately, the efforts of everyone who contributed to making the memorial special would’ve brought a smile to Erica’s face. It felt like a warm group hug.
I was hesitant about all that extra pressure and stress on my fiancée because I don’t want her to buckle under all that. We can’t all be so strong all the time. But watching her rally this weekend? Summoning the strength she needed to be strong for Erica and her parents, to be the glue that held the whole rally together with a touching tribute video and a heartfelt speech? It took my breath away. She turned her grief into love in a remarkably powerful way.
Her strength, her resolve, her ability to start a rally and keep it going strong for a friend who was like a sister to her; that was the best rally I’ve ever seen.