Many goals go unaccomplished.
It is not for a lack of trying to win, though. Goals are often doomed from the get-go.
You may have heard of setting SMART goals, meaning goals that are Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound, but this popular model leaves a lot unsaid.
The first question you need to ask yourself before setting a goal is: “Do I even want to achieve this?”.
I’ve seen many people set goals because they were told it was helpful, or necessary to achieve something, or they felt like they needed to have goals for themselves - probably acting on advice given to them from a boss or some book they read.
What is often overlooked is that people struggle to set solid goals for themselves because they may not be in an arena where there are meaningful goals available for them to accomplish.
Think of it like this:
If you are working a job that you don’t like, and you are asked to set goals in your yearly performance review, what kind of goals are you likely to set?
You’re likely to have something about taking on more responsibility, moving up in the company, etc. - all those things that sound good on paper.
Are those things that you really want, though?
Is achieving any of those goals going to align with where you want to go?
Why are you working your job in the first place?
Likely to support your life outside of work, at a minimum.
Is a promotion - taking on more stress and responsibility at this job really what you want?
If that doesn’t sound like what you want, you need to be honest with yourself.
Setting and pursuing bad goals that don’t align with your path is going to pull you off your path.
Said differently, you are going to be putting your efforts and resources into a pursuit that is going to pull you away from where you want to go.
You are working against yourself.
I’ve been there.
I thought I was doing the right thing by setting goals, but I wasn’t checking in with myself to make sure I was on the right path.
The better I got at achieving these goals I was setting for myself, the more efficiently I was able to weaken my Integrity.
I got better at making my situation worse.
If any of this resonated with you, know that you have what it takes to right the ship and get back on the path you want.
If you need a hand re-setting your sights, let me know.
Yours in strength,